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which guy should i choose?
14/f
SORRY THiS MiGHT BE LONG, BUT THiS iS A MAJOR PROBLEM.
Facts you need to know; I have a boyfriend, let's call him "Billy". (we've been together for 4 months now). And I have a best friend, let's call him "Bobby". Bobby's liked me for almost a year now. I just haven't noticed the things Bobby has done for me, until now.
The Story;
Me & Billy has been going GREAT! But, we have our ups & downs, but what relationships hasn't? My friends don't like Billy, because they say that what he seems to do is make me cry & mad all the time. But then, they don't see him as I do, he isn't all that bad of a person. And Bobby, my friend's seem to like him more, they say he appreciates me more than Billy does. So I'm going to get STRAiGHT to the point. I like Bobby now, but then yet I also like Billy. My friend's says I have to make a decision. Ever since Bobby comment myspace out of notice saying, "You're more adorable, sweeter, and I love you more! I love you hunny bunny." (Billy reads my comments). Billy doesn't know about Bobby, because I know trouble will be on it's way if he finds out. Billy said that I needed to tell "my little boyfriend down there" to ease the fuck off. Yes, those were his exact words. My choices are very complicated, it's hard for me to make the decision myself, so I don't want to make the wrong decision either, but yet, I don't want to regret it. Billy, yes he makes me cry & fustrated, that's true, but we get through it.. which makes our relationship stronger too. Bobby, he hasn't done me wrong at all, and he's always there for me. When he said "Whatever happens between us, you'll always be in my heart." WAS SOO TRUE. Billy's complicated because the way he treats me, I know him VERY well too. But then, he doesn't know me well, because he doesn't even know my favorite color. Or my birthday, he got the month wrong too. Bobby, he knows how to treat a girl, and he knows me well, and yes.. he knows when's my birthday & favorite color. Billy, he's more opened... so if something is bothering him, he'd probably talk to me about it. Bobby, he's kind of closed, so if something was bothering him, he'd probably keep it in, and not talk about it. So it's kind of hard for me to figure him out, because I heard some things about him in the past, but he hasn't told me about it. That's what makes him complicated. I get to see Billy more than I get to see Bobby. Because Bobby works, but he'll be going to the same school as me next year. Billy, will be moving kind of far from me, when he goes to the same school for ONLY two or three months, but I'll be able to see him on the weekends (if i have no homework, of course). I can't really trust Billy when he's with girls, especially if his only bestfriend is MY ENEMY. AKA also his last girlfriend before he and I started going out with me. But I can trust Bobby about hanging out with girls and stuff, because I'm already the only girl he's talking to. But then yet, if i do have to break up with Billy, it would be hard for me, because I still like him, but it wouldn't be fair to Bobbly. And because, I don't want to throw away the things we've been through. But not just that, I'm scared he'll find someone else, someone else that's better then me. Because the thing is, I'm his longest relationship, his second longest relationship would probably be a month and two weeks. I'm the first on everything to him, you know, first kiss, first to celebrate anniversaries, etc. He tells me that I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had, but I want to be his BEST out of all the girls he would be seeing, or meeting. Plus, Billy says that he's going to try to be the best boyfriend he can be. And he's actually improving, not that many problems, and he's actually taking care of me. But it still bothers me he's bestfriends with my enemy, and yes I talked to him about it, I understand. But yet, it still bothers me.
SOOO HELP?!
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Ok its clear that bobby and billy both like you.
With Billy:
IF you don't feel like you can trust him, with his ex, or with any other girl while he is away, then you shouldn't go out with him. It shouldn't matter about best whatevers. He doesn't know you.
With Bobby:
He likes you, he knows you, and you lie him. is there really any choice?
Just re-read you question and write all the pros and cons that are in your question for each guy.
Hope this helps,
AlyssaBT4T
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Maybe you could try dating Bobby for a while to see how he will act then choose
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You can't choose someone's friend and you shouldn't judge people by who they hang out with everyone is an individual. If you are truely happy with 'billy' than stay with him.
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