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i made a huge mistake...
have been dating my girlfriend Caitlyn for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know Cait is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. I was pretty upset with her and At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to Cait and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other. i guess i left it there that night) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game Cait brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. Cait broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?
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I don't know how you can get her back or if you even can.
The best thing I can tell you to do is have patience with her. She needs some time to sort out her feelings.
There really is no way to just "make it up to her."
Right now she is not only angry with you, but really, extremely hurt. She has lost all trust in you. You can apologize and apologize until you puke coat hangers, but right now she will likely not trust that you are really sorry.
Like I said, you are going to have to give her a little time to sort out her feelings. If she does decide she wants to get back together, you will have to accept the fact that she won't trust you at first, and she probably won't trust you for some time to come. You will just have to have patience with her on that, as well.
Regaining someone's trust is not an easy task. You can't just go out of your way to say "See, you can trust me, now." You have to prove to her that she can trust in you once again. I can't tell you how to do that. That is something you really have to figure out on your own.
As for the cause of this whole thing- the fighting- your best bet is to make a point not to fight over anything that isn't worth fighting about. It saves a lot of trouble and heart ache in the long run.
Good luck to you, and I hope that you get it straightened out in due time. :)
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