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i have pcos and am very depressed
hi my name is shelly and im 15 , going into grade 11. iv recently found out i have pcos wich basicly means i wont ovulate and am infertile. i am over weight, have hair where i shouldnt (chin,sideburns,belly,back), brown patched under my arms and around my neck , ill never have babys, i have horribly dry skin and overall im depressed. what i would like to know is WHY ME?! how do i fix this all? , my whole life through middle school i was made fun of though i had alot of friends, everyone though i was very masculin with my chin hair and brown neck/armpits. and now that im in high school iv mad all new friends, and learned how to cover up what i dont want seen , but iv come to realize, iv also built a barrier where i wont let anyone come close, i have about 6 BEST friends and even they dont know about the stuff i have to go through just to get by the day. i also have ADD and i stopped taking my ridilin when i was about 12, big mistake . im going into grade 11 and im a complete year behind cause i get so stressed out, when im not comfortable in a class i tend to ... well not go . if i have a bully teacher, or no friends in the class , or even if the work is too hard . its just too much stress and i cant do it . theres so much wrong with me , and the thing is , even the people who i let come close to me , dont knwo the shit i have to go through and i dont want them to know. iv told my mom and shes said for about 6 months now , oh ok ill make a doctor appointment. but shes yet to do it. shes too conserned about herself to even realize the stuff i do for myself . i just want to be NORMAL not perfect just your average joe, id like to be able to wear a tshirt and shorts and feel confident. how do i fix myself? im depressed , hairy, not so smart and BROWN. please help me :(
do i need anti depressents? should i consider going back on ridilin? iv heard birth control helps with pcos should i try that? pleas just give me the answers.
sorry for being so long, but i really could use the help.
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Please don't worry about asking a long question, that's quite some problem you need to get off your chest. Life is tough enough being a teenager without everything else you are having to deal with. You're going to get a long answer anyway!
Let's do this one thing at a time:
Ritalin - You're right, you shouldn't have taken yourself off it, not just because the doctor didn't say you could but also because you ran the risk of adverse side effects by coming off long term medication too quickly. If you can't get your mum to take to take you to the doctors, is there another adult you could ask? In the meantime, there are studies that show taking fish oils can be beneficial in cases of ADD and ADHD. Also sustained use of Ritalin seems to be unwise due to recent studies linking it to causing other health issues. Again, your doctor would be able to advise on this more fully.
PCOS - This is not a nice thing to have to deal with at any age. The outward symptoms can make you feel very insecure. There are a lot of women who have this and there are many different symptoms, not all of which need appear. Weight issues are also common in PCOS but losing weight can help with periods. A lot of sufferers can go on to have children, although they may need help. There are also recent studies showing a possible link between PCOS and insulin resistence. If this should prove to be the case, there are artifical insulin tablets called Metformin that could be used at some point. Doctors are still holding off of prescribing this at the moment though, as there is still insufficient research to be sure of the results. However, it is looking promising. Alternative remedies like acupuncture have also been found to help regulate periods.
The birth control pill can help but it's not adviced to use it for all of your reproductive years due to the increased risk of some cancers.
It can help with the excess hair as well.
There is also minor surgery if hormones don't work, again, your doctor can advise you fully on this.
For your skin, there are lots of super intensive moisturisers you can try, ask a pharmisist for advice on the best one for your condition. The patches could be disguised with makeup or if they are really bad, you could ask about laser treatments.
Children are cruel, that is a fact. Any child that is different to the rest in some way is likely to be a target. Children like to feel as though they belong to a group and differences between them are not usually tolerated too well. Hopefully this behaviour lessens as they get older and the fact that you now have friends would seem to indicate this. Gradually, if you can learn to open up to your friends, (I know you say you don't want them to know, but try anyway), you will find that you start to relax and things begin to feel better. You'll start to have fun and the natural endorphines from this will ease the stress you are feeling. This, in turn, should help you to pick your grades up, stay in class and deal with difficult teachers. If you can do all this, in a few months you may feel confident enough to wear whatever you like, whether you have sorted out all the problems or not.
There is always hope for the future, as researchers are finding more and more cures for things. So please don't give up, ask your mum or someone else to take you to the doctor, speak to your school councillor, talk to your friends and let them know what's going on. You need support and it doesn't sound as though you're getting it at the moment.
I've given you some websites with more information on how to deal with this, and updates on the latest research, just so that you know your situation isn't completely hopeless. Try to keep in mind that the best cure for depression is talking to someone. A trouble shared etc. You feel totally stuck at the moment with no way out. There is a way, it's not easy, it will take time
and you have to hang in there, but you CAN do it.
When life is tough, you come out stronger and will be more able to achieve something great. Use this difficult time to build a solid foundation of determination for the future and you could go far. You will have more sympathy and concern for others who are suffering because you know what it's like. Have faith in yourself and you will come through this.
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