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Love Traingleageness?
I really don't ask questions on this site, but this is an exception.
But anyways, onto my question...
So, I have this really good friend guy friend, and that's all I see him as, a really good friend. My best guy friend, actually. But today, I was told that he really really likes me as more than a friend. But that's the problem, I only see him as a friend. He dosen't know I know he likes me, but I think he's going to figure it out.
The other problem with this situation is, that we were talking about who we like and I was going on about the kid that I really do like as more than a friend. And the person who told me he likes me, also told me that it hurt him.
So now I'm stuck because:
A. My best guy friend wants more and I don't.
and
B. I feel terrible for going on about my crush, because it really hurt my friend.
Ugh, I just don't know what to do. Should I tell him I don't like him as more than a friend, or just let it pass or what?
Thanks, Jack, I know you'll be able to help =]
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Hey- first I want to apologize for the time its taken me to respond to this =/. I've been preoccupied with things- and its been tough to answer questions.
Thanks for asking to my inbox =D.
A. If you don't want to go out with someone or have a relationship with them- you DON'T have to. Trust me, I've been on the other end of this situation- and my best friend didn't like me like that- and all I could do was accept it. What more COULD I do? I couldn't MAKE her like me- so it ended up that we didn't talk for 3 months. =/ Yeah I know- torture.. but I couldn't do much. Eventually things healed. Maybe this is how it will end up between you two, but let's hope not; fingers crossed!
Don't feel guilty or anything because you don't feel the same.
B. Well you obviously didn't know he liked you, so you didn't know this was hurting him. Really, you can't be held responsible for how he feels. If he asked you about who you liked [usually a sign that he likes you- just for future reference =D] and you were answering- well then don't feel guilty. In fact, even if it was you that brought it up, don't feel terrible. I know that sounds mean, and you would probably expect someone who was in your friend's situation to say otherwise, but I realized that you can't be selfish when you're on this side of it.
I think you should definitely tell him that you don't like him as more than a friend- but don't just come out and say it- maybe wait until he tells you- that way you know for sure. But- if you want to let him know- then don't be afraid to tell him so- you can't help that you don't like him. People don't just DECIDE to like and not like people- its just naturally how you feel.
All in all, don't feel guilty, terrible or anything, no matter how rude or terrible that sounds.
I hope that helped- and you should know if you need further help- I AM always here- and I probably will be for years to come =D.
--Jack
(15/m)
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