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Guys Just Don't See It?
16/f
Oh where to begin -- I feel unstoppable right now! For the last two years I`ve been on a never ending journey to enhance my life, and I am loving the results. It`s an amazing feeling and it is just growing stronger. Forgetting modesty (something that really used to hold me back), I`m attractive, intelligent and full of potential. In my honesty box the only comments from guys have said (for example - sorry for the language) "I wish I could fuck you!"
I haven`t had a boyfriend for almost three years and I`m okay with that most of the time. I just don`t see why guys only want me for my body -- I`m so much more than that. I can`t seem to make friends with guys without them eventually commenting non-stop about my body (I find it quite innapropriate).
How do I show that I feel as good inside as I do outside? I`m sick of being called a "stuck-up bitch" and getting into fights, that`s not me at all. I would love to have closer relationships with guys, and maybe something that actually means something. Nothing too serious, I`m young I know. I don`t know what anyone could tell me but I would love to hear any suggestions. Thanks so much! =)
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WEll I think that that is the problem. And coming from someone much older, I would say it is NOT a problem. It is because you are young. You are certainly more mature and sophisticated than most of the boys you have access to. These boys too, will grow into men. Some of them will mature and learn to appreciate all of a woman's assets. Looks and brains are a great combination, and you are right to want to be appreciated for both. Some boys, though will get older, but never grow up. They will only ever think of women as sex object. They have no use for a woman who can think for herself. Your job, is #1) be patient. In time you will meet some wonderful men. #2) learn to know the difference between a many who loves all of you, and one who just wants to go t bed with you. I think the fact that you have taken a few years off from dating is awesome and has contributed to your learning about "relationships" from the outside looking in. You see all of the trouble and anguish that your friends, guys and girls, are going through. The best thing you can do for yourself is to also gain some power. By that I mean get an education (College) so that you can enhance your intelligence and have earning power. So you never HAVE to rely on a man. If you look good enough to model or act or something like that, go for it. Just try to avoid the emotional pitfalls of being involved with someone who only sees your outer beauty. Because in time, it does change, and there will always be cuter, prettier, and younger girls around. Beauty fades but inner strenght and brains do not. Good luck to you dear. You sound like a young lady who is going to achieve great things. And may I suggest, people who dedicate their lives to helping others, you know, selfless acts of kindness, etc. etc. are the happiest people on earth. And what better place is there than working for a non-profit organization, to meet a man who is not self-absorbed, and thinks about others with an aim to making a difference in the world.
Michele
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