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ok im am getting ready to start high school. i've had boyfriends. but they only lasted like 2 weeks. so i've never really had a relationship. well anyway do you have any advice about boys in high school. i don't want to change myself for a guy thats not an option for me.
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Hello.
Since you're asking to my inbox- I'm sure you've seen my column before.
Seen my FAQ? Haha..
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The second paragraph won't really apply to you- since you don't want to change yourself for boys. That's GREAT!
My answer:
First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because my ex-girlfriend was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded. I haven't had a girlfriend since then [last December, I believe].
Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.
I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.
Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].
P.S. Here's some more information about guys in high school:
1. They ARE immature. All of them, including me, but a lot of them are immature and mature at the same time. Just be patient.
2. Don't try to date "the hot senior guy". Seniors won't like you. In fact- they already don't like you [I'm assuming your a freshman]. Date guys your own age- or sophomores.
3. If you find a boyfriend- don't advertise it. Its really annoying. You're already an annoying freshman- you don't need anything else on your back. What I mean is that its fine to hold hands- but you don't need to make out and cuddle in front of everyone. No one wants to see that. Its especially annoying to people like me. =]
Have fun in high school!
--Jack
(15/m)
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