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friends to becoming more?
okay so basically i like this boy named matt. we always cuddle and hold hands when we're at our friends house but the only problem is theres another girl.. he has been basically in love with this girl kelly for the longest time. matt & i live in new jersey and kelly lives six hours away in a different state. he said he's seen her 5 times in the past 3 years..so nobody really thinks it could work but they both like each other. my best friend megan said he talks & acts different around lauren & i as opposed to other girls so how do i get him to like me more than only a bestfriend? are there suddle things to do? any advice would helpp =)
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You cannot make anyone like you more than they like someone else. All you can do is let them know how you feel about them and leave it in their court.
Obviously, cuddling, hand holding, and flirting won't help you here because he sees that as a normal part of your relationship and friendship and will not see it as you trying to get his attention and interest.
I know you want to be subtle here but sometimes subtlety has to fall by the wayside. You need to talk to him when you are alone and mention this other girl who lives six hours away and talk about how that relationship won't work on a romantic level even though they like eachother.
Tell him what Megan said to you about how he acts around her and talks about you. Lay it on the table and ask him whether he wants to be with you or not as you're here beside him when she's not and she's only seen him 5 times during the last year.
He would be dumb not to pursue this unless he's just not ready for a relationship or willing to take a risk. If you want something or in this case someone this much there's only one real option go for it! He won't say no and even if he did the word no won't kill you and at least you'll know where you stand. You've been friends for ages so nothing will change there.
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the only way to solve this problem is to kinda bring it up. and if you qwanna be more subtle then next time your holding hands or cuddling, or just flirting in general just be like, so what does this mean? and try to steer the convo that way. up the flirting to show that your interested, and i doubt he only has best firend feelings because you guys seem like you like eachother anyways. So next time try to bring it up, and see if you can mention kelley. i doubt his relattionship could work if shes that away and he should realise that. especially if you two act all buddy buddy.
xo.
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long distant relationships never normally work out. you need to sit matt down and tell him how you feel. i know that sometimes its hard in person, so maybe on the fone or in a letter or something. just tell him that you realyl liek him and explain that long distan reltionships dont work out well. i wish i had more addive for you but the best i can tell you is to tell him how you feel for him. i know how you feel, i have the same problem. =]good luck
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