|
What if I don't see him?
I started liking my crush 4 years ago (almost) he was my first summer love, year 2003. We had an 8 week fling and I havn't seen him since. I've done a lot to get ready for this summer when I THOUGHT Id finally see him again, but now I found out he might be going off to university early, and that I might not see him this summer. I'm so scared of that happening, I need to see him - if I don't - I might be holding on to this silly crush forever. I need to see him so something can happen, we can fall in love, or fall apart - anything! As long as something happens - I can move on in some way, I can do something, make a decsion. I will not be able to do that without seeing him. I've tried getting him out of my heard for a ong time, but its hard since we left things so perfect! If we'd just have a fight I could get over him. I know what you're thinking *what if it ends perfect this year too?* But the thing is - I'm planning on asking him out this year - so if he says no, it'll b easier to get over him. If he says yes - we'll go steady and I won't need to get over him.
So what do I do if I don't see him? Has anyone been through this before? What did you do to get over someone when the chapter wasn't even finished yet?
There are all these articles about how to get over someone - think about his negative sides, spend some time apart etc etc etc.. but we left things PERFECT - im still in love so there are no negative sides for me! And we're apart all the time! HELP!! (Thanks!)
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Life often doesn't come with large bold letters say THE END or CHAPTER 2.
Life stops and starts unexpectedly. Some things you wait your whole life for, may never happen. You are left wondering. Everyone's life is full of 'what if's'. I am twenty-two and I still remember my 'what-if' crush from when I was fourteen, and I remember them fondly, even though nothing ever did, and probably never will happen. You'll be very miserable if you think everything should have a tidy ending like in movies and books. Throw that idea away; it will only make your miserable.
In fact, it is making you miserable.
Relationships that never actually happened are, BY FAR the hardest to get over. Because you are absolutely right, love evolves, but it starts as infatuation and infatuation knows no faults. When you are still infatuated, the person you like seems perfect. You have to get to know them better for you to realize they aren't.
So my advice to you: Pick up the phone! Call this boy even if you have to pay out the nose for the calls. E-mail him. Tell him and show him now how you feel RIGHT NOW! Waiting to see him in person is an EXCUSE! Stop stalling. You are stressed because the way you are currently dealing with this, you could be stalling forever. You want a chapter to start. Start it right now, some way, anyway, even if you need to send snail mail to communicate. DO IT!
You'll feel better if you take some control and stop leaving it all to fate. You'll be taking control of your life, and that is something you MUST do in order to be with him, and also something you'll need to do to get over him.
Grab the bull by the horns for goodness sake, or else just accept that sitting home and wondering and whining is all you are prepared to do.
]
More Questions: |