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im afraid for once on what to do now
me and my best friend love eachother. everyone is trying to get us together as in dateing. but i want to but im just scared. im never scared to do anything. and im never scared to talk to guys or even the ones i like im not afraid to make a fool of myself i do what i want when i want im never afraid to do anything. but im just afraid to loose him again. we tried dating before but it fell apart and we grew apart but were bestfriends again. we love eachother but im afraid to loose my bestfriend again. but i wana go out with him. we said if we would go out wed never loose being bestfriends. id die with out him. i wana date him but then i dont wana loose him like last time. what do i do so we dont break up? or so we stay friends? or so im not as afraid? can you list the pros and cons please. help me this is the only bad part about your best friend being a guy. to marrow is the last day or school and i need help by 6am or its over my life is over.
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I know what you mean. I'm in/been in the smae situation.
Pros:
You're going out
You're trying something new
You're giving your relationship to grow into a stronger, more important one.
Cons:
If you guys break up...
Friendship may not be as strong as before
Heartache
If you guys already went out and got back to being best friends, it shows that there's going to be another chance for you guys to get back to being bffs if you guys do go out again. But the chances get slimmer each time. I think that before you guys officially agree to go out, talk with him. Tell him what you're worried about but that you really like him but you don't want to risk the friendship. Ask him if you guys will alwasy be able to be comfortable with each other and remain bffs even if you guys break up.
Good luck!
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How to get over your fear of losing him:
I was so afraid to ever go out with anyone once becuase I had been SO heart broken and I never wanted to feel that constant pain again. What gave me courage was someone new that I liked a lot told me to try again. I knew this person well and I trusted them so I did. I tried again. You may not no me well but you can ask anyone and they'll tell you to try again. If you love this person put your fears behind you and just have a good time with him.
How to make the realtionship last:
On this I'm not the person you should ask because so far in my life my longest realationship lasted a month. What I would do to make things last longer would take things slow.
If you stay friends:
If you can't put your fears behind you and you decide to stay friends with him its okay because he still loves you and you still love him so does it really matter if you just say bf and gf. You don't really have to be bf and gf, do whatever comes to your heart.
If you go out with him
Pros: Yippie yahoo you got him and hes got you! Everythings great. What can possibly go wrong? Take a risk and try once more.
Cons: Things might not feel the same around him if you stay friends with him and not date him.
I'm not sure if I made it in your timeline but at least I tried. Good luck.
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