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Love square in 2007


Question Posted Sunday May 20 2007, 5:04 am

(sorry that this is long)

I ‘m Alice and I am in a love square, I am in love with my best friend who I knew for 8 years she is my first women crush. Her name is Iris. My ex boyfriend Tony who I went out with when I saw in 11th grade for 3 months told me he still had feelings for me. He lives in Hawaii. And Iris and my friend Ray who we know for 7 years has feelings for the both of us and he is bi-curios. He went out with Iris for 3 days but she broke up with him. That was in our 9th grade.
I broke up with Tony because I realized I didn’t have feelings for him and at the time I was dealing with family issues and my feelings for Iris. I told him I wasn’t interest into him anymore and I broke his heart. When we graduate he moved to Hawaii with his mother. Iris told me that Tony had feelings for her but she only looked at him in a brother type way. I got jealous on either side, because he was my boyfriend and I didn’t want her to go out with him. But then I was jealous that he asks her out and I wanted her to be mine. (Yeah confusing)
Ray always had a long term feelings for Iris and I but he is a horny guy…me and him are close like siblings but we talk about sex and we laugh about it. I know Ray is serous when we talk about it. But I brush it off the side because I don’t want to go far with him. I only love him as a brother who is always there for me. (Ray really likes Iris more than me)
Iris is confused and she is not of type person to talk about sex or relationships. She wants to work and go to school and be with friends.
I told her how I felt about her and she was shocked she told me she was fine with it but she isn’t interest because she is not sure what gender she is inertest into yet.
She is very close to me than others, she leans on me and she loves to play around with me. Iris and I are still friends and we hang out and chat online with each other mostly every day. It just I want to move away so I can get over her.
I’m not ready for a relationship with a girl….I realized that I’m bi-sexual.
I want to go out with Iris in the future but I don’t know if she wants that? And /or she see me that way.
In a year I be moving to Hawaii with my parents, (this is before I new my ex was there)
I don’t know what to do
I don’t want to move away from my friends and sisters, but I have no money to have a place in CA.
Tony is in love with me and I’m in love with Iris and Ray likes Iris and I and Iris is confused on what she wants.
I thought that if I move to Hawaii and go out with Tony that I will forget my feelings of Iris, but Tony didn’t forget about me and it’s been 5 years I haven’t talk to him till NOW. So I know I won’t forget about her.
I can’t make my self fall in love with Tony because I know my heart wants Iris. Iris might be lost in this love stuff I know she just wants to travel and move on…I want to find out who I’m!?
What should I do?


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lilcutie1212 answered Monday May 21 2007, 6:07 pm:
This is going to sound corny but you need your heart to lead you to who you love. You cant force yourself to love Tony if you dont and If you love Iris you cant force yourself to stop. You also cant force Iris into loving you if she doesnt. You need to give it time find out how she feels. Ok If you need more help IM me at craziirockerchic

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