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friends with benefits
Last night was my first kiss. I was hanging out with a group of my friends and everybody went home except me and this guy I've liked for a while. We sat in his car listening to music and talking for a while, and when I got out of the car, he commented that he didn't need to be home for 5 more minutes (we were just up the street from his house). I asked if that was an invitation, and he said that depended on whether I was interested or not. After a few more minutes of playful banter and me almost leaving again, he finally shut up and kissed me. This is with 2 minutes left on the clock. There was tongue involved, there was necking, it was very nice, but only two minutes long. When we broke for air I said to him "time's up" and he pulled me close and asked how late I wanted to make him. There was some more playful banter, but nothing else happened. I really like him and certainly wouldn't say no to a relationship, but I'm a hormonal teenager and he's a good kisser. Does this fall into the "friends with benefits" category and if it does, how do I bring up doing it again? We have never been on a date before and we used to be really close, but we don't have any classes together this semester so I don't talk to him very much anymore.
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Don't rush into a relationship. Chances are that if you do, it will just as quickly fall apart. Continue to be good friends and just get to know each other more. In terms of getting in touch with him, try to meet up on weekends or on off-time, talk over the phone, or even chat online.
I don't think this falls into the "friends with benefits" category, yet. I wouldn't suggest meeting up just to make out or do stuff together, because it could easily turn into that...if thats what you are trying to avoid. Let the moments happen on their own, and don't push for them because either or both of you might get hurt.
Maybe I missed your message, and you do want it to be a "friends with benefits" kinda relationship. I guess you could just go for it - to me, it doesn't seem like most people sit down and discuss that; in other words, they just let things happen. If you're looking for a relationship, then hold off just a bit. Even if you aren't sure yet of what to do, keep talking to him and try to be closer friends. Time will tell where your feelings and thoughts lay. Good things come to those who wait - hope that helped and good luck.
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Friends with benefits is when you do that on a regular bases and call each other up to basically just mess around in any way shape or form. It was more of a random huckup. But it seems like it can lead to more. I would say he likes you and may be interested in a relationship. Ask him what he's doing on the weekend and see if you can just hand out. Or you can always do it the middle school way and have friends find out for you and just make it a group of friends hanging out again type thing. Good luck hun!!!
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