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Thank you so much for your advice [i had the LONG uestion sabout the guy that i like and he likes me back but i feel like he doesnt try for me and i do alotta things first...]
i acutally hung out with him on friday and he, not meanly, said....IM MAD AT YOU! and i said why! and he said....you dont call me anymore! so it hink hes just older and more of not the big "texter or aim person" and to be honest...i think the phone is a better way of talking and communicating too...and when we were walking and talking he said "im an honest person and i wannabe honest with you...i feel like youre not interested in me..."
and i was feeling the same towards him...
i think i just reaLIZED that he did call me in the beginning a good amount of times nad i may have text a lot and that little stuff but calls are more significant and i never really called a lot....and i realized that the more i call adn make him see how i care and like him a lot...the more hell do back because its really a joint effort...
i always wanna call but my problem is......i HATE the phone
im scared of awkward silences and im scared of being boring...i also would hate to catch him at a wrong time like when hes with his friends or doing something...i just dont know what to say or talk about adn i dont wanna be boring...i wanna have him enjoy talking to me and enjoy having a convo with me on the phone...im so freaked about being boring and stuff....id call way more if i was one of those girls who haev that phone confidence....its a big big problem for me.......
ive tried so much to "go with the flow" and stuff like that but i always feel like im so boring....idk what to do!
i want to call him more andshow him that yes i do wanna talk to him adn yes i am VERY interested in him so much but i have my little phone problem.....can you give me any advice/help with that?
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When you first call him, ask what he's up to and make sure he's not busy. If he is, say something cute like, "Aww man! I guess I'll call you back at a better time!" It's polite and you won't have to worry about interrupting him.
If he can talk right then, here are some good coversations that can lead to other things to talk about:
-a movie you just saw. ask if he's seen it. if he has, talk about each other's favorite parts. if he hasn't, give him a little review and insist that you two need to go see a movie together soon.
-tell him a funny story that happened in school/work that day.
-say you called to tell him this hilarious joke you read online. laughs are always fun on the phone!
-ask him how school is going for him and if he's excited about it. ask about the classes he'll be taking and if he'll miss you while he's gone.
-swap interests. start the conversation with a "well, you know I'm interested in you. so i think the next step would be learning more about you." and then you guys can talk about each other's lives, things you like to do, and just get to know each other.
-i don't know what your hobbies are, but, for example, say you write poetry. call him and say "i wrote this poem and i wanted to get your opinion on it" or something like that
Try talking about these things. Remember, if you feel the conversation starts to get boring or you run out of things to talk about, realize that phone conversations DON'T last forever. There's nothing wrong with a 10-15 minute conversation.
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