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hi thanks for the advice and your so right i am afraind of losing him i think thats why i dont say anything. sometimes i stay over at his butthese last 2/3times iv said i can stay over he has made an excuse. so when the next time i see him im going to ask why he doesnt want me to stay. he hasnt acted or said if anything happened the last time i stayed as far as i can remeber everything was good. im 38 and this is my first proper relationship my others have all ended up bad, and my boyfriend has shown me whats its like to have a proper relationship and a proper boyfriend , and not one who abuses you.i am scared of losing him but i know i cant go on being scared of that. when things dont seem right i just sit and cry and i need to say whats on my mind. its like iv got to involed and i need to distance myself emotionally a bit. what do you think. thanks
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Amen to not staying with a guy who abuses you, but you need to realize just cause a guy may be generally good, doesn't abuse you, and yes even though you may love him, doesn't mean he is the perfect one for you.
You don't need to distance yourself emotionally. You're in a relationship, of course your emotions are powerful and deep. You simply need to face up to them with a clear a mind as possible and reconigize them for what they are.
It's okay to cry and it's okay to be afriad. It's not okay to sit back and hope the badness will just go away. Your boyfriend seems to avoiding talking about the real issue just as much as you are, so one of you is going to have to start this conversation.
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