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My boyfriend granted himself an "all-access pass" to my vagina after I'm done my period. And I'm a little nervous. How hairy should it be? and what is he gonna do? Please help!
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If you don't already have birth-control including condoms, then get some. If you are sexually active or just thinking about it, then be prepared. Oral sex is very intimate and special. It is not something that you should take lightly. You don't need to shave, just be clean and emotionally ready. Are you? If you are not mature and in a loyal relationship then it will only be uncomfortable and leave you feeling regretful. Sex, oral sex, all the wonderful things humans are gifted with can be a curse or blessing, depending on the situation. Always be the one in charge of your own body, including when and where and how anything happens. Never let anyone tell you or influence you to do anything that is not your desire completely. Your body has one boss...you. Protect yourself physically and emotionally.
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ok... never let him do that if you are under 20. that is just gross under that age. and never shave there either. does he have a email? ifhe does. 1. say you won't let him
2. tell me what it is! just kidding! what ever you want. what he is gonna do is have you know what with you.
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He 'granted himself' a pass eh? Whose vagina is it again?
Seriously dear, if you want to give up control, if you find it exciting the idea that he can do what he wants to you, that is awesome. But if this is stressing you out, making you nervous and uncomfortable you need to tell him to STOP.
He doesn't get to do ANYTHING until you tell him he can. He doesn't get to grant himself any rights over your body unless you've told him he is allowed to. If you need to know what he is planning for your own piece of mind tell him so. Something like "I know you are trying to surprise me, but I'm really not going to be comfortable with this unless you explain what you have in mind beforehand." should do the trick. Maybe after you guys talk about it a bit more and you know he can respect your boundaries, you'll feel confident enough to let him surprise you.
This is all assuming the two of you are already sexually active with each other. If this his idea of a good way to start a sexual relationship with you, run for the hills, because that is controlling and amazingly insensitive of a guy to say if he doesn't have an established sexual relationship with you. That kind of play is for people with a solid knowledge of one another’s bodies and a deep trust. It’s not something boys get to just do cause they wanna.
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