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i have a guyfriend, brett. i just started getting to know him through IMs this past week, and he's really nice. he always tells me that i'm the only girl he can really talk to, and he really appreciates that i always compliment him (saying he's mature, smart, nice, a good friend, etc.) and i help him with his problems.
i have a crush, sean. i've liked him on and off for a while, but now i really like him again. i dont REALLY REALLY like him, but he's just a crush. i talk to him sometimes, little things like, if he wants a pencil or something i'm like, "oh, here i have one." i wouldnt consider us friends.
well, i know this was a terrible thing, but one of the reasons why i asked brett for his screen name was because i thought him and sean were friends. well it turns out that sean is actually really mean to brett, and brett pretends to be sean's friend. unfortunate, right?
well, after i realized that, i was like okay so brett isn't gonna help me at all getting to sean. well i dont want to just stop talking to brett cause he's so nice and everything, but i feel like we're getting too close too fast. we've exchanged lots of information and he really makes me feel different than anyone else - like i was really really upset the other night and i was talking to him about what heaven would be like and i was saying things like how i would want to see the world when i'm not in it, and he said something along the lines "dont go to heaven right now - i'd miss you too much" and like not even my closest guyfriends have said something like that to me.
& he said that he kind of likes someone, but he isn't sure yet. well i'm REALLY worried. i mean in the last three or four days, we've talked about everything from like, baking to bullying to grades to guinea pigs. but i've talked to him about sean... not using his name though. i'd just say like "oh my crush..." blah blah but i really hinted that it's not brett. like when brett asked who it was, i've said, "well i dont want to say his name cause i would be scared you'd tell him" so i mean that really hints that it's some other guy. but i'm just worried that brett likes me.. maybe i'm being selfish, maybe i haven't known him long enough. but now that i think about it, i think he might.
brett once said, "who would i ask to the 8th grade dance?" and i was just like ask a girl you think is pretty and he was like no one would go with me and i was like yeah someone will... was he hinting something?
and if brett DOES tell me he likes me and / or asks me out / to the 8th grade dance... i couldn't go. i just don't like him like that. but i dont know if he understands that i'm not the type of girl that you can just ask out without finding out if i like you or not. do you understand what i'm saying? so that's why i was hinting i dont like him... just in case.
i don't want to ask brett if he likes me or not - but should i tell him i like sean so he might back off a little? or would he be even MORE angry at sean?
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Ooooh if you tell him you like Sean, he WILL be mad. Maybe at you (I don't know what Brett is like) and he will definitely be mad at Sean. If you tell Brett that you like Sean, then Brett may become overprotective of you and make him stay away from you. Then when your name is mentioned, Sean will be clueless, while Brett will be even more mad thinking that Sean is acting like he's clueless. So therefore, telling Brett that you like Sean is definitely not a good idea. And if Brett actually likes you right now, and you tell him that you like Sean, that would break his heart. Besides, Brett seems like a much nicer guy than Sean. You want to make a better relation with Brett more than Sean right? I'm not sure whether or not you should take the next step, but maybe just stay back and see what's really going on before you take a step forward (i.e. The relation between Brett and Sean, etc.)
I hate situations where two of your friends are fighting against each other, and you don't have much of a choice except take one side over the other. You won't be able to make Brett and Sean become friends unless they want to do so themselves.
I hope you will be able to figure out what to do.
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Well, I don't really understand why you don't like Brett. He seems to like you, yes, and if you both can talk to eachother so easily, and if he is a nice guy, then isn't this the guy you want to be with?
You say you like Sean, but sean is known as a bully, right? because he bothers Brett. And by the sounds of it, You don't even know Sean as a person, So how can you actually truly say you like him?
It's obviously just a physical attraction and nothing more...
You already said that Brett makes you feel good.
Even so, if Brett isn't the guy you want at the moment, then make it known that you don't like him instead of leading him on... But do not completely throw him off because over time you may actualy start to fall for him.
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