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who to choose?
Okay so here's the situation. In 6th grade I really liked this guy named Jamie. But half way through the year he moved to hong kong. but while he was there, we talked on AIM and he told me he liked me and i told him that i liked him too. he came back for 4th quarter that year, but i was going out with this other guy. so then he went back to hong kong, but last summer he came back and called me and wanted to play tennis with me. after we played tennis, he invited me to a movie. we didn't hold hands or anything, and he never said he liked me again. but over spring break last year i met this guy robert. he lives in pennsylvania, and we talked a little bit, and when we talked online later he said that he liked me. i just talked to him tonight online, and he was really happy to hear from me, and we got to talking. we figured out that we're both going to be at that same hotel at the same time next spring break! also, jamie is coming back this summer. who should i pursue? i really like them both, but i don't know who it makes more sense to go out with. thanks!
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Firstly with robert. He lives in Pennsylvania so I'm guessing he doesn't actually live anywhere near you? So the only time you will actually be meeting up with him will be in the spring break when you both are staying at the same hotel. The question you should ask yourself is are you after a long term relationship? If you are then this might be very hard with robert considering he lives in another state (this is the impression I get at least). If you both hook up at the hotel will it just be a fling over the summer break or are you after more than that and also, what is he after? Because unless you both are after the same thing it will cause problems. I only mention this because the same situation has popped up a lot of times with friends and they did things and said things they later regretted when they found out the guy they were so in 'love' with was only after a holiday fling whereas they (my friends) turned out to be after a little more than just that.
As for Jamie it sounds like he is also hardly around much because of his trips to Hong Kong. Does he live locally to you and just visits Hong Kong on holidays? If that's the case then he might be the better choice but that all does depend on if you actually do feel the same way about him as you did before and if he feels the same way about you as well - people do change and so does how they feel sometimes.
It's really up to you who to go for but either way there's things to consider and think about but the most important thing to decide is who YOU actually like and want to be with and if they feel the same way about you too. As I said it's no good that you want a long term relationship with one guy whereas all he wants is a fling. It will just cause problems and heart ache. Good luck though and I'm sorry I couldn't be more help.
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Since you will see Jamie first, why not have fun with him and see how the summer goes ? There are no rules that say you can't also be friends with Robert. You don't have to choose one over the other. It's great to look forward to the next spring break when you will see Robert again but for now just look to the summer.
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