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Bad situation in my love life!
13/f
Well, I'm sort of in a sticky situation, and I don't know what to do. I fancy someone so much, he is such an amazing person. Let's call him C. I have known who C was for about 6 months now, and I always thought he was hot. But a few months ago it started to be more than that, and now I really fancy him. I've known him personally for a month now.
I met him through friends and everything he did suggested one thing: he fancied me. I posted a question before descibing everything he had done and asking whether it appeared that he fancied me. Everyone answered yes. Since then C has done other things, like send me flirty messages, make eye contact and say I'm hot. I was so happy, because for once in my life, I could think of someone I fancied and not have that feeling of amazing happiness and sadness at the same time because it was a case of loving something I couldn't have. For once, it seemed as if someone felt the same way about me and it was a great feeling.
I've been hanging out with him quite a lot and he is such a nice person. He's not like the others guys I've known, he really respects girls and other people's feelings.
But then, oh no, it has to happen again. I was at an all-night party the other day and he was there, I still felt like there was this amazing connection between us. But that was when I found out something terrible. C has a girlfriend. I had just assumed he was single because he hadn't ever stated otherwise, I had never seen him with anyone and no one had ever mentioned anyone. The reason for this, I found out at the party, was she lives miles away so he only gets to see her once a month and gets driven up in the car. Since then, on various internet surveys, he's said that he's in love with her. And I know for a fact that he's stayed faithful the whole time he's been dating her.
Yet I still get the feeling he fancies me, and I still fancy him like hell. But he doesn't love me, like he loves her.
At first, I thought, I'll try and split them up, someone having a girlfriend has never stopped me before. But then it hit me, I really care for C. I know how much he loves this girl and how happy he is with her, and I don't want him to be upset. And certainly not because of something I've done.
But I don't want to give up on him.
I'm thinking that maybe the best thing to do is concentrate on being friends with C, because I do want to do that. I think he's a great person and want him to be a part of my life, even if he is just a friend. But while I'm being friends with him I'll keep making that eye contact we make that makes me feel like we have a special connection. And I'll always dress really good and try to look great whenever I'm with him. And hope that he splits with his girlfriend.
Is that a good idea? Or should I just forget about him? Or make friends with him without the looking nice and eye contact stuff?
Please tell me what you think I should do in this situation.
Sorry it was long. Thanks in advance, xxx
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i know exactly how you feel. i wish i could say the right words to make you feel better but this kind of thing happens all the time, and im sorry you have to go through it. it sux, when a guy has a girlfriend or some other reason why he cant go out with you. but it is good that you are thinking about a good solution. just concentrate on being friends. i would also say to try to get over him, but thats a hard thing to do especially with such a sweet guy. if you dont want to get over him or you cant then thats ok. but dont expect him to break up with his gf and get together with you. convince urself that he wont. i know it sux but its the only thing you can do. flirt with him if you want. just continue being friends as usual. dont let this get to you. you will be fine and one day a guy will love you to, even if it isnt this guy. i promise. =)
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