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Am I doing the right thing?
In one year or so i might be moving with my parents to hawaii, i want to go cause its my home land and i want to move away from CA. I made great friends and i dont want to leave them. i realized i gained feelings to my bestfriend. i told her how i felt and she knows. she didnt respone to me about it. so i knew she didnt care for me in that way.
But i've been geting alot of body lang from her of liking me back. i ignor it but she dosnt want me to.(what i mean is, she flirts and always grab my attention, and when i walk away from it she gets mad or try her best to get my attention again)
the other reson i'm moving away is because of my feelings. I dont like it that i'm in luv with my best friend who is a women.
if she does want to be with me I'll say no. i might break her heart (i know).Because i'm afriad of what people might think.
But if she dosent have feelings to me i'll be happy. but i know i'll be jealous if she is with someone elus.
Am i doing the right thing? of running away from it all? i cant blame her its me i blame.
i can stay here in CA without my parents because i'm 20 yrs old women and i can live on my own. But i dont have a good paying job or a car. so i have no choice.
but still is it right for me to just leave and ignor whats going on between me and her?
i know i need to talk to her and i will soon,but what would you do if your in my shoes?
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Okay. I think what others may have been missing is that your real problem is that you are a woman in love with a female friend. You're uncomfortable with the idea of same-sex attraction. You are thinking that maybe if you start over in another place you won't be troubled with thoughts of wanting to be with your best friend.
My advice is to work on yourself- get an education, a job, a car, or whatever it is you need to secure your future. In the meantime, see how things develop with this woman. If they don't work out, then you can make the decision in a year to move away with your parents. Even if she does like you, you may very well find that you are incompatible for one reason or another and not be together in a year. Or you may be ready to be a family and have children together (with help). Who knows? Wait until you have your answer on whether you can be together with your friend and whether it's going to work out like you want it before you decide to move away. You don't need to decide now. Live your life.
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If i was in yuor shoes..
and i loved this women..and i was 20..
i would stay.
and get a good job.
and stay with her because..LOVE can make it thruogh anything
and it's perfectly normal to fall in love with your best friend, you dont just meet someone and fall in love with them, you're best friends first. and .. if she likes you, maybe both of you have a future together? hmm.
if i was you i would try it, an dsee if its worht staying in CA ?
"] goodluck.
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if i were in your shoes, i would talk to her, tell her how you feel about her, and then tell her why you are moving. talk about you fellings for her, and if she doesn't feel the same way, then tell her you are moving away. don't think of it like running away from her or anyone else, but think of it as a new chance in your life to meet new people and get a new relationship. you will make friends there. still, keep in touch with all your friends from cali. good luck! :]
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