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15/f my boyfriend
Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 weeks now everything is going good except I’m thinking he is ready to move to the next stage which is sex and I haven’t had sex before so I was wondering if you can give me some pointers like can you keep your shirt on because I am not big at all my boobs are a 34A and im sure he wants a bigger girls so how do you have sex and how do you put on a condom and is there anything else I can use as protection except birth control and he’s slept with girls before so should I make him go get a test for stds cause im worried he might have something
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1) He needs to get tested for STD's ASAP. If he's not willing to do that, dump him. If he won't get tested, he doesn't care about your safety, which SHOULD be his number one concern.
2) Of course you can keep your shirt on. Do whatever makes you the most comfortable. If he keeps trying to take it off, gently push his arms away and if he doesn't stop trying, tell him you're cold and you want to keep it on or something.
3) There are directions on how to put on a condom on the inside of the box. He basically just rolls it on.
4) Another tip I like to give out, before he enters you, MAKE SURE you touch his penis to make sure he actually has a condom on. Some guys like to lie because they don't like wearing them, and that's how girls get pregnant, so make sure you check.
5) I'm relieved you're worried about safety precautions and protection. I highly recommend you get on birth control for at least a month BEFORE you two have sex. Better safe than sorry. It's really easy to get too. If you call your doctor's office, tell them the situation (that you have limited imcome and you don't want your parents to know) and they WILL set up an appointment for you to get it and will find a way to help you pay for it. Either that or go to planned parenthood. Condoms are a must for safety as well.
6) I'm going to warn you right now, your first few times having sex are really really really really going to hurt. That's why it's really important for him to take it slow. Don't be afraid to tell him if he's hurting you and that he needs to slow down.
7) I know you're going to hate me for this one, but hear me out, okay? You've only been dating this guy for 3 weeks and he already wants to sleep with you... that sounds pretty shady if you ask me. It's been barely a month. Plus, you say he's slept with a lot of other girls too, so sex obviously isn't a big deal to him, he just does it because it feels good. Look at all the girls he's been with and look where there are now. Chances are 9 out of 10 that after he sleeps with you, you'll end up just like them. You should think about that before tossing him your virginity.
That's all I have for now. I'm sure I forgot something in there so I might add to it later. Good luck!
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You can keep your shirt on if you want to. 3 weeks isn't a long time. You can even say no. :)
He should be tested if he has slept around. Always use a condom. The pill is the best form of birth control but still use a condom.
Here is a site that will answer everything you need to know before taking that next step. Including help about condoms.
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