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kinda confused.
hey, thanks so much in advance for trying to help me. i know this is a bit confusing, but i'll try to make it as simple as possible. so basically, theres three people involved..
my "bestfriend" - Kate
this guy - Matt
another guy - Andy
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So, me and kate have been friends for about 9 years now. and we ALWAYS get in arguments, usually about stupid things. she's the kind of person who just cares about herself, gets jealous easy, and never wants anyone to have something better then she does, or out do her. kate went out with this kid billy, for about a year. and they just recently broke up, which was a complete and total shock to everyone, because they were really close, and a really cute couple..
..matt is this kid who i've always flirted with and stuff, and he told me he liked me a few months ago. now unlike most immature guys at my age [ 14 ], he's not the kind that would make you do something you dont want to do. he's a really really nice guy,and really cares about me, but is sometimes a little too clingy.. i like him, but i don't think i like him as much as he likes me. he's a really good kid though..
okay, now andy. well we went out 2 years ago.. & broke up..and i've liked him since. i mean, it's been off and on, but in the long run, i've liked him for a very long time. i just can't get over him, no matter how much i want to. he IS immature, and horny, and i don't think hed make me do soemthing i didnt want to do, but i know he would really want to do it.. if that makes sence? .. anyway. he doesn't like me, or atleast he doesnt admit it. sometimes i get the vibe he likes me, but other times i know he could care less about me. im a little shy around him, because i always am trtying to impress him..but we talk a lot online, and in school, too but not as much as id like.. hes really cute and funny and i dont even know what i really like about him, but i cant get over him no matter what i do. oh & by the way, i dont know if he knows i like him. he knew i did before, but i told him i didnt, to make things a little more normal between us. but i think its kinda obvious i like him, whenefver i see him, i smile a lot, and i think he can tell..
..so the way this all ties in is, me and matt have been hanging out a lot, and we were kinda like girlfriend and boyfriend, but with out the lable. but i kind of found him annoying sometimes.. too clingy..so i told him i think its better if we were just friends. but i told him i still liked him, and he said okay i really like you still and i want to be more then friends, so when your ready,just tell me. so ever since weve been just friends or whatever, we still hug all the time and talk and everythign, and really its not even that different. but my 'bestfriend' kate has been hanging all over him, and going out of her way to flirt with him. she even asked him too hookup with her by the end of the year. she touches him constantly, and also , right infront of my face.. as u can imagine i get realllly mad about it and when matt tries to come up and talk to me i just ignore him because it hurts to see him with her like that, and i just get jealous i guess. and its not that im exxagerating either. my other friends, hate her for doing that to me. they talk about her all the time to me , telling me how shes all over marc. i know she does this knowing i get mad, because i told her, and him. she doesnt care. matt does, he tells me that he really wants to be more then friends ,and to not worry about kate because he dont like he rlike that.. now andy doesnt really tie into this story.. but i guess one of the things holding me back from being with matt is him. whenever i see andy, i just like him all over again. i dont know wat it is. and it sure doesnt helpp that hes extremely cute. matt is too by the way. but i have such a better chance with marc, who will really care about me. but then i think about andy and how much i liked him for so long, even though hes a jerk. and kate, i dont even know. basically im trying to drop her as a friend, becaus ehs ecould care less about me im beginning to think. shed do anything to make me feel bad, or left out or something. and she also always accuses me of liking her ex, when me and him are just friends, no flirting, no nothing. so basically i dont know what to do. be with matt even though i have deelings for andy? or ..i dont even know. thanks SO much if you actually read this! =] byee<3
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ok wow. that was long haha.
ok my first question...who is marc? lol you referred to him twice but i'm not sure who that is, so i'm just going to leave him out of this.
now with kate, you're doing the right thing by dropping her. she isn't your real friend if she flirts with the guys that like you. she is probably just jealous that matt likes you instead of her.
ok don't take this the wrong way or anything but to me it seems like you are using matt. you keep him hanging by hugging him and giving him false hope, when you really just like andy. to me matt seems like the better guy for you, and better boyfriend material. but before (and if) you decide to actually start dating matt, you need to make sure to leave andy out of your life. i mean you can still talk to him in class, but make sure to not flirt with him even if it is by accident. try thinking of all of the things that you don't like about andy. lol its weird but it will make him seem less appealing to you :]
then you need to devote more of your time to matt. don't take advantage of him just because he likes you. because if you go out with matt but then still have feelings for andy, something is bound to go wrong.
but if you decide to date andy, then you need to tell matt straight out that you don't want to be more then friends, and that you like andy. this way he will get the picture and can move on to find another girl.
good luck girl <3
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