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hey, well.. you said that you'd be willing to help me with my problem, so here it is.
14/f.
mmk, well I knew this kid, who was like my bestestestest friend ever. like, i asked him for help with everythinggg. & he always looked out for me. & then eventually, we dated. for a couple months. then, he broke up with me, but a couple months later, we were best friends again. & it was like we were dating. but we never made it offical. considering, i just had gotten out of a bad relationship at that time, + i wasn't 100 percent sure if i liked him & only him completely.
that all happened in 6th grade. [ i met him in like 4th grade, & we became like best friends at the beginning of 5th grade.]
so anyways, 7th grade rolled around, me & him were still the best of friends. & i was like wow, yano we've been friends so long, most girls i know dont stay that good of friends with guys for so long. so then, at the end of 7th grade, in the summer, well, i have a sliding glasss door in my room, which leads out to my deck, & like, its confusing.. my house is like on a hill, but anyways, its really easy for boys to sneak up there.. & stuff. so i had alot of visiters during that summer, most of the boys that i didn't really care too much about. but then, my best friend [the boy] was like omg your so hot. & i'd so wanna do you. & i was also talking to my old best friend at the time [well she was still my best friend then] & i was like hes tottaly kidding right? & shes like oh yeah deffinitly. so i kinda played along with what he was saying. but then he got all weird. like he was like, do you love me? tell me you love me. & i was like wtf is he high. & he just kept saying stuff like that. so then, he was like ok im comin over. & im like.. its kinda late bud? & he was all like it would be fun. & i was like whoa nooo. & he kept insisting. & like, it wasnt like him, for awhile i didnt even think it was him. so hes like, hayley you said you loved me. & all this stuff like that. & i was like, idno i was starting to get mad. so hes like..whatever i'm coming over.
so he came over alright. & i was like, well you should've known before you walked here, i wasnt going to do that. i'm only 13. i'm not a slut. & all this stuff. eventually, i told him to go home. he ended up being really mad at me. we talked for a couple months longer, & then, that ended that. he like tottaly just stopped talking to me, completely.
& i was like so upset. because i then felt like so wrong & guilty. i mean, i didnt know he was being serious. i never thought, that he actually would have came. i never knew i dont know. so then now, i go to his school. hes in like 5 of my classes. & my lunch period. so i see him alotttt. & he looks at me alot. like alottt. but he hasnt talked to me yet, & i've been there for like 2 months. & so, also, some of the kids he hangs out with, like hate me. & stuff. &thats not fair, because he basically twisted the story. saying i liked him & everything.
so, now its basically screwing things up there too. like there like, oh wait.. your that girl?
so, i don't know what to do. am i suppose to go up to him apologize? or should i just forget it?
& its like so confusing. because people though keep walking up to me. & theyll be like, wait you dated him? yeah, he always talks about you, in a good way. so like i don't know. i feel weird going up to him & just being like hey.
what should i do? i cant just forget about him. & i'm always feeling so guilty. how do i make it better? & show him that it wasn't my fault, that i didnt know.
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ha you werent kidding when you said it was long.. but im gonna try my best to help you.. so i really hope it does..
First off, don't feel guilty at all. you didnt know if he was serious that night and it sounded like it was really hard to tell because he was being a little "different".. so dont feel guilty at all.. i know it might be hard to get by that fact.. but you shouldnt personally i think you did the right thing although it doesnt seem like it now.. it will when you get older.
As far as being at the same school as him now.. well if you have his screen name or e-mail... try talking to him on there to sort of make things a little more easier on yourself and him if you want to actually talk to him in person. so try talking to him on there and just be like ha the funniest thing happens to me almost everyday.. everyone says im "that" girl that went out with you.. ya know to sort of get that topic going and if he's like really? just be like yea.. n idk i guess people know bout that one night when you came over and hate me now.. n im confused do you knwo what thats about? and if he sorta blows the question off n is like nope just be like ha alright thats cool just wondering.. n go on with a normal conversation.. and just sorta build your friendship with him..
I mean by the sound of it.. he still thinks you're a great girl.. trust me guys dont just stare and random people dont say guys talk bout you in a good way.. haha guys just dont work like that unless someone means something to them... as far as being in classes with him.. idk maybe just be more "outgoing" in the class in general.. like volunteer a lot and just speak up answer questions talk more.. sorta just goof around with people in the class and he'll def. notice you n prob. wanna join in.. and if you ever see him in the halls.. he'll def. look so make eye contact shoot one of those "half smiles" and be the first one to look away.. it makes him wonder what just went through your mind.. and if it helps walk by with another guy even if he's just a friend he'll notice.. and WANT to talk to you more..
As far as everyone not liking you.. thats their opinion.. i mean they obviously dont know you.. so you have to show them by just being outgoing that your not who they think you are.. but not come on to strong to either the guy or his friends
I guess in the end to build a friendship you have to take baby steps... such as talking online first.. and try to get HIM to talk to YOU in class or in the halls and what not..
hopefully it helped let me know how it goes or if you need help with anything else.. im here!!
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