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casual sex - bad idea for a virgin?
is it a really bad idea for my first time with a guy to be casual sex? i'm really hot for him and i'm pretty sure he is for me, but i already know that he doesn't want a relationship (and anyway, it probably wouldn't work out - we don't seem to be able to establish that intimate verbal communication). he's really gentle and sweet, and it's not like we're completely distant or anything - we're friends and he does seem to have some tender feelings for me. but still - we're not in love and he has conveyed to me that he doesn't have feelings for me (he was extremely vague though). my other friend says that casual sex feels really empty, but maybe that's just if you don't know or care about that person at all? i feel like if i weren't a virgin i'd jump his bones the next time we were in a room alone.
i'm 18 and go to college, by the way, and we live in the same student housing facility.
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Hi. I don't think casual sex is a bad thing at all if it's what both parties are sure about and won't be a problem however, with you being a virgin as well there are other things to consider as well.
I'm actually uncertain as to how to answer this question. This is something I am usually asked by teenagers who have no idea what they are getting themselves into or are giving into peer pressure or because they were told that being a virgin is 'un-cool'. :-/ You, however, are an adult so what I say to them wouldn't really be relevant in your situation.
Since you know what the score is (that it will be nothing but casual sex and nothing more) I think it really is totally up to you on what it is you wish to do. The only thing I will say however is that I have always said if someone is wanting to give their virginity away they do so after much thought. It may not seem to mean much nowadays but I still think it's something special that should be shared with someone special since it's not something you can go back on and change and will probably be an experience you will carry and remember with you your whole lifetime (it's true what they say, you never forget your first time).
Have a think about it and if youo feel this is what you want to do then by all means go for it - you are old enough to be able to make this decision for yourself. :] However, I will say in the interest of spreading the message of safe sex, if you do decide to go ahead ensure protection is used. You will only be doing yourself a favour.
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