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I Need Help With Boyfriend Probs. And Qwick !!!!!
Hey i am a 13 year old girl and i have a boyfriend and he's like reeeeeeeeealy sweet and he loves me but.... When ever im sad he like just gives me this look as if i have done somthing to affend him. Then he just walk's off and dosen't do anything about it. so what should i do???? Can someone help me please im crying:'(
Love,
sad and no one cares!!!
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Before I give you my advice I should probably say to you that no matter what he can't make your problems go away. Don't depend on him to make them go away.
But he can comfort you when you are sad. Some guys don't exactly have that thing to them that makes them know what to do all the time. Since you are 13 and I'm guessing he's 13 he is probably still trying to mature, find out who he really is, and see all of his options. Because of this maybe he isn't real sure how to handle it when you go in to your sad mode. So here is how to fix it...
Ask him one day (randomly) "If I was sad right now what would you do?" Try and ask him this when you are alone and kind of intamate. Like watching a movie and you are both really into it. He will say something like "Hold you" or something like that. Pretty much he will try and sweet talk you. Then say "Then why don't you when I am sad?" Challenge him. Then tell him it bothers you when he won't comfort you. He'll come around it just may not be right when you want him to.
Also don't be so dramatic. This being dramatic can affect you worse than actually being sad over something. Hang in there, hun. He'll come around.
Hope this works for you,
Kelse Kaye
P.S. Keep me posted!
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Point out to him nicely that this bothers you. Ask, "Why don't you ever hold me when I'm sad? I'm not asking you to fix all my problems, but do you think you could try to make me feel a little bit better?" Tell him that if he was ever sad, you'd be there to cheer him up in a heartbeat.
Maybe your boyfriend thinks your too emotional. Are you upset or crying often? If you are, that might be scaring him away. You didn't say how old he was, but I'm assuming he is your age. Plus, if you're his first girlfriend, he might not know how to deal with a crying girlfriend. Perhaps he's scared to say the wrong thing.
Just sit down with him and have a talk about. Communication can solve many many problems.
Good luck!
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Do you try to talk to him about it or just sit there and hope he asks?
If your just sitting there waiting for him to ask you what is wrong this is the problem. You are bringing him down, and he probably think that he has done something.
You gotta remember, he cant solvee all your problems.
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