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my family puts so much pressure on me to do "good". straight a's in school, scholarships for college, healthy friendships. my parents pretty much contol my life.
but the thing that bothers me most is that they treat me and my brother so different. im 16 and hes 18. i know that there is an age difference. but when he ran away at christmas and didnt come back for a week, they now treat him like "the perfect child" if you will. they dont yell at him about his shitty grades. they dont yell at him for skipping work and going to his girlfriends house while her parents are away.
but when i run away in a store, they ground me for a month. wtf is up with that? they threaten all the time to forcefully make me quit the tennis team and make me pay them the 200 dollars back (which i dont have).
everything has been going wrong and i cant stand it. its not just family. its friends, boyfriend, school, tennis. its everything. and i cant stand it. my dads a pastor and a cop. and i just want to give up and end everything. i used to cut. i dont anymore. made my best friend a promise that i wouldnt. and i intend to keep that promise. i have noone to turn to except for a 22 year old who ive grown up with and my parents dont trust. they wont let me talk to him cause they think im having sex with him. hes married and has a kid. im ready to give up. ready to end everything. its hard to hold on when i have nothing to hold on for.
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The reason they don't seem to care about your brother's intentions is because they're afraid that he'll run away again.
You may be surprised to hear this, but a lot of parents are overprotective. Actually, even more so than previous generations for some reason. Today's parents drive their kids because they want everything for them even if that means the kid needs to suffer sometimes.
But honey, you need to talk to your parents about your feelings. Calmly sit down with them and tell them that you can't take the pressure anymore and have been thinking about suicide. If they're of any use at all, they'll realize what they're doing to you and straighten up which they probably will because they already eased up on your brother.
Tell them about your relationship with the older guy and explain to them that these days he is the only grown up you feel comfortable talking to because they have pretty much alienated you.
This approach should work.
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i know how you feel. i feel the same way sometimes, but my parents aren`t THAT bad. they`re probably doing this because now that yout brother fucked up, they want atleast one perfect child so that they can feel like they did something right, that they raised atleast one child well. anyways. you should talk to them. tell them how you feel. explain to them that if they don`t give you a little freedom now, you`re going to go crazy once you leave and get complete freedom. either that, or get a job, save up, and move out the day you turn 18. once you`re 18, your parents can`t tell you shit. other than that, i don`t know what to tell you. just don`t give up. never give up. don`t give in to your parents either, that`s what they want.
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