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I realized that I am being VERY mentaly abused by my parents...But I am a very happy person so I TRY to forget about it.I don't really love my parents...I don't like them thats for sure.But I'm afraid if I tell someone then I'll be put in like foster care or something because I DO NOT want to move again...(been in 9 schools and 15+ houses) Plus I have really good friends and a PERFECT boyfriend and I am willing to take my parents abuse to stay with him.My question is what can I say to my parents to get them to stop...I REALLY need help :( Please don't tell me to tell someone I don't want to .
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I agree you should talk to someone. Have you told your parents how you feel? Try to talk to them at a time when everyone is calm and not fighting. Focus on not accusing them of anything, but just saying how you feel inside. It does not need to be a big speech. Just one sentence even. Let them absorb that and just listen and don't get defensive when they talk. You don't want to provoke them or put yourself in a worse position, but try to work it out with them first. Life is hard, parents are imperfect people like anyone else and will always have major flaws. Being a teen is a trying time for you and them. The relationship must continue to be open and you need to be in a safe place where you can communicate, but this sometimes does not happen in "regular" homes. You can't make them stop, any more than I can make them. We don't have that power to control others. You can try to approach them in a gentle manner I described. It may take several tries...go in baby steps. Nothing will change overnight, or it may never. In the meantime talk to a school counselor about your feelings and concerns. I don't know what constitutes mental abuse legally, but it would take a professional to determine that. Parents can be a major source of anguish without it being legally abusive, so I don't know what you might be up against. You are a brave girl and I am glad you have some real positives in your young life. You will get through this. You will eventually get to pick and choose for yourself whom to allow in your life...the ones that are not nice will have no place in it. I wish you all the best. Let me know if there is anything else you need.
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As much as you don't want to tell someone... I think you should. Chances are that they won't take you away... just make you fo to family conseling sessions or something along those lines. If you don't want to do that then try talking to them. Ask them why they treat you this way and why they put you down. Tell them how they are making you feel. Being abused is a hard thing to deal with, but by telling someone or talking to your parents, you might be able to deal with it or overcome it. Hope I helped
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