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bffs? or atleast friends
13/f. wev been bffs since kp now eight years. but were like changin alot shes always been loud and a tomboy iv always been shy and a girly girl. now im loud and freaky and gothic shes a quiet preppy perk. shes popular im a freak. i always was popular but now thay just hated all my other friends and made fun of them so they wouldnt stop i just hated it. so i started just hagin out with some of my other friends. then the 'popular' ppl were falin apart and started gettin in fights but now there fine. but ive realize wat a real group was ppl who always care about you. and know about you. my old bestfriend never knows anything about me im happy now and there not. now they regret all they did to my other friends. they all want in. most of the grade pretty much hates them not my fault. now they realize how much they needed me but they act like 'part time friends' like only my friends out of school i said id still be friends but i want friends that would always admit there my friends my best friends.ive been in every group. i have more close friends. she has alot of friends but she hates half and the other half hates her is that true friendship? now she just acts. i try to be friends with all them i am but ill be nice to who is nice to me. she pretty much ignores me now. but now that she ignored me so she could get at the top of all the popular people she has no real friends, nobody. but she ignores me since i left them. i dont wana lose friend ship but i dont think it was real friend ship. im fine now. but she has no1. every1 ignored me so she followed. so i left. i stil try to be friends.
was i too mean?
is her 'friends'real friends'?
did i do the right thing?
should i give up on my 'popular socalled friends?
what else do i do?
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Well, it's not that you were mean, this behavior is typical of early adolescents.
You just have to realize that and move on. Don't put extra energy into helping someone who doesn't seem to want you help. Just talk to you old best friend and tell her you'll be there for her whenever you need her. After that leave her alone, she'll come crawling back someday and even if she doesn't, she'll always think of you as a good friend.
Are her friends real friends? Right now, it's hard to tell. You are all still in the process of growing up and physical and emotional changes can overwhelm anybody. Eventually, she'll figure out who her true friends are. You don't need to worry about it.
As far as your popular friends are concerned, don't go through life trying to stick labels before you make friends. Sure, be friends with them, but be friends with everyone else too. Don't single anyone out and always be nice to everybody. Your core group of friends will reveal itself in early high school and then you'll know who to stick by because right now, some of the "nerds" and going to become kings and some of the popular kids are gonna drop out of the spectrum.
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