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I am with my 1st love we have 2 kids each he is an old love.We have over come hard times but i find my self asking should it be this hard to love someone.Things seem to be looking up but he want talk to me about us he saids there is nothing wrong with us.He can't keep a job saids his back is hurt and it is but he can still work if i try and talk he saids not now what else can i do i am out of resason for us to work
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You are right to worry about the issue of money and work. Love does not pay the bills. You both have a responsibility to your children to provide the best home you can for them. This does not mean a lot of money is necessary, but enough to provide a stable roof over their heads, clean clothes, food etc. The most important thing kids need is a loving home, with as little stress as possible. Are the kids better off with or without this man in their lives? Is he father material or just a boyfriend for you? You do deserve love and to have a life of your own and possibly marriage in the future if that is what you want, but you don't have to settle too soon. It is extremely hard to be a woman and stand on your own. Even in marriage, a woman has great times of lonliness and disappointments with her husband. Every woman and especially mothers have a huge responsibility to do what they know is right over what they feel they emotionally would like. A man will never fill up all the lonely places or be our prince charming. That is a fantasy that does not exist. You can still search out and find a man who shares your values and goals in life and who will be a great companion and friend through the years. This is more valuable than a hot romance that quickly fades when reality sets in. If this man will not work and will not talk and will not negotiate and will not listen, then what is it he is doing? If he is not doing the very things you need, then you need to decide what it is that is most important to you. Keeping him around or letting him go, so that there is room in your life for better. We have to let go, before we can receive more from the universe. Keep only people in your life that support your goals and values. The rest only drag you down. Life is short. Don't waste it waiting for someone to change. It will not happen. You can only decide for yourself how to proceed, but I wish you all the best.
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