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should i be THIS upset?
OK, so last week my "friend" Lindsay sort of got a little mad at me & my "friend" Kristen because we were hanging out with a girl named Lynnette. So Lindsay starts hanging out with Molly & Kayla because she wanted us to be jealous, but I'm not. Lynnette is a way better friend than either of them right now. So anyway, when we were all sitting down in the gym at the end of the school day, I asked Lindsay why she had a problem with Lynnette, AND TRUST ME SHE HAS A HUGE PROBLEM WITH HER!!! So then she tells me "What the heck? You know what, Lauren. If you're gonna be that way then what the heck is up your butt?" She wanted to say "What the hell is up your ass?" But she didn't. The only reason she did that is because the popular girls were around her & she wanted to be popular so she showed off, & tried to impress them. I hate Lindsay. So then my other "friend" Kristen, tells me A WEEK LATER that she worked things out with her! She's been my friend for 9 YEARS & she's friends WITH THAT GIRL LINDSAY! I'm so mad at her now. She doesn't know though. She waited a week to tell me after I was sending her e-mails, IMs, & text messages asking what's going on! Should I be this upset that I hate both of them? I mean, Lindsay & Kristen would expect me not to be friends with someone who said something like that to them. So Kristen pulls this act "Well I feel like I have to choose..." I've been sticking up for her for YEARS & what does she do? NOTHING TO STAND UP FOR ME! So then I mentioned that over AIM & she's like "Well...I mean if you don't want me to be friends with her I won't because you're both gonna talk shit about each other behind each other's backs. It's totally not worth losing our friendship over." We met Lindsay this year. But I mean...come on! SHE SAYS THIS EVERYTIME I GET MAD & SORRY JUST ISN'T ENOUGH ANYMORE! Sorry this was so long but some girls I just hate being friends with because it's so dramatic. I already told her I was mad, then I told her I wasn't even though I am. Should I be upset about this? I just need another persons' perspective on this.
Thanks in advance!
~ Lauren <33
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Look i've been in this situation i have three friends that hate eachother. Look Lindsay is so dumb if she's going to be like that then drop her but Kristen has been your friend for years. Talk to Kristen and talk to her sort it out and tell Kristen she doesn't have to choose. If you still want to be friends with lindsay talk to her too. All three of you sit down and sort it out. Remember Conversation not Convrentation. (I don't know if i spelled it right.) I hope this helps.
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Sure it's okay to be upset. You thought Kristen was your friend and she turned her back on you. Might I suggest going new friend shopping? No one should have to deal with THAT much drama. Ignore Lindsay. Don't talk to her. Don't look at her. Act like she's not even there. All she's going to do is upset you more.
As for Kristen being friends with Lindsay; you can't stop Kristen from being friends with her. She can do whatever she wants. She obviously knows it bothers you and she obviously doesn't care about the things Lindsay said. You tried explaining to Kristen that you felt abandoned right? Even if Kristen "wasn't friends with Lindsay" there would still just be more drama. I say it's time to ditch her as well.
Bottom line: Lindsay is a drama queen. Kristen is a bad friend.
You don't need to start a fight with either of them. You don't have to even talk to them anymore. Go out and meet new people and move on. Why not hang out with Lynnette more often?
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