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not over it
hey. last year i liked this guy but i didn't know him that well. i was going to talk to him & get to know him but my friend started bothering him all of the time because everyone told me he liked me even tho we never really talked. some things he did starting to make me think he might like me but i didnt want to get my hopes up. anyway.. my friend would ask him about me everyday even when i told her to stop..some of his answeres would be good but i just wanted to talk to him myself..after that i was too embarassed. she even wrote him a note pretending to b me and said i liked him..i still like this guy but it was pretty obvious he never liked me back. im still not over him..i still see him everyday and even tho i dont have any classes with him, its hard. please help ♥
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It's hard to control how you feel- believe me i know. And bottom line, sometimes it's great, other times, it sucks.
The first think you need to do is talk to your friend. Sit her down and tell her that you are thankful that you have her as a friend who is willing to help and you really appreciate. But this is something you need to do on your own and if you do need help with it, you know you have her to turn to. (that is what friends are for anyways)
*You can add "You have tried helping before but I don't think it's working and Ishould deal with it on my own."
If she tries to get into it, then you need to not be as mice and just say that you do not need her help and she is making it worse. (you should only have to ask once anyway)
As for the guy. well, guys are confusing like really confusing. Write him a note, or text him, IM his whatever and say that your friend got a little to involved and you hope everything can be ok between you too and it would be great if he could try and forget what ever your friend did/said.
I am what my teacher calls me "a go-getter". Which is really true. When I want something I go after it, even if it means bending a rule a little. Basically what I am saying is, keep going after him. He might start to like you now that you friend isn't involved. Maybe try to get a group a friends to go out and then talk to him more. Or even just talk to him online.. that's what I did and now this guy and are are really close friends!
If you want to get over him though, try and find a different guy, I think that usually works. But it seems like you want him more then letting go.
So good luck, have fun, and come to me if you have any more questions because I love love love to help!!!
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You need to tell your friend that what she is doing is not helping the situation any and to stop. If she will not listen you need to get more in her face about it and tell her to mind her own business on this one and stay out of your love life.
Tell her you value her as a friend but when it comes to guys her involvement in your business starts and ends at the end of her nose. Learn a lesson from this though. Girls are like this when a friend says they like so and so.
If you don't want that information from getting around to anyone keep your mouth shut and say nothing if asked by her or anyone in the future. Tell them that's your business and to mind theirs.
You ought to let your friend know also that you're not up in her business like she has been with you and that you may lose said guy from what she's doing because it may piss him let alone you off.
What should you do? corner the guy alone and tell him your friend is being a real pest in bothering him and you had nothing at all to do with it or her behavior. Point out your friend must think she's helping but is not.
Give him your number, e-mail etc and tell him "if you're still interested in getting to know me despite all this here's how to find me." Walk away and leave the ball in his court. Don't be shy as guys are petrified of girls too and having to ask the same things.
He's not going to snarl at you and if he did it would prove he's not worth it or your friend pissed him off too much and he's holding it against you.
If that happens it's not your fault but it does teach you and reinforces what I said that if you want your crushes to stay secret tell her as well as your friends it's your business and not open for discussion.
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