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I want to CHANGEEE.
15/f.freshman.
I'm shy. in school, i'm quiet in class. with friends/family, im loud. people don't realize that. i hate it! I know i'm not ugly. Really, idk if it's about self-esteem. I just feel like I don't have any motivation to talk to people. I've never had a real boyfriend, or kissed a guy. and i want that to change. I wanna make new friends, because even though i have 2 best friends, i can't ALWAYS rely on them. I talk to people, but i'm not like friends with them as in like hanging out and talking everyday. Plus guys is a whole different story. I want a boyfriend! And i have no guy friends. NONE. This is my new years resolution and i have to do this. i can't keep being like this. What can i do to give myself some motivation, that boost i need to get me going? To get me first of all, participating in class more, talking in class, talking to other people, boys AND girls, making friends and getting a boyfriend (or more:)) I just want to start over freshman year! its a new year i need to make a change! I just don't know where to start.
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Lots of people are saying to just do it and dont worry. The only thing is I know exactly what position you are in because I'm JUST LIKE YOU. Although I only have one actual best friend and a few people I talk to, but I know where you are coming from.
Basically what I'm saying is that you can't really just be outgoing. That doesn't happen overnight, allthough i REALL wish it did. :(
10 simple Solutions to shyness is supposed to be a good book. I'm reading it right now, and I've heard from some people it works amazingly. Now I dont know if it works yet since I just barely started it. There are excersizes and stuff and you learn about different types of shyness also, and of course, how to overcome it. Good luck, although I'm not sure if this is good enough advice since I'm still overcoming shyness. :P
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Turely anf honestly that was me freshman year to. Like EXACTALLY. So i deffinatly know how you feel. But i sucked it up and totaly chaged and i LOVE my life now. You just need to put yourself out there. Start small you dont wanna go too crazy. Just gradually start to talk to more people. Maybe some people that you have occasionaly talked to but never too deep into a converstation. You need to get yourself comfortable with it then you will be talking up a storm:). Boyfriend wise. You just have to wait. Trying to get a guy is harder. I waited all 15 years of my life then i met 1 boy and unexspectidly got my first boyfriend. Dont rush into that. Try meeting some new boys, like ones that your other friends talk to. All in all, you just have to let it all go, not care what anyone thinks cause that the main reason people are shy they are scred that people wont like there true selfs. but the truth is that people like you better when you nice and talk alot, make converstaion. If you need anything eles feel free to ask or my screen name is on my page.
Jess<3
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well whenever i really want something, like really really bad, i just out my laziness and lack of self confidence aside and go for it! it's really not that difficult! if you want to participate in class, participate! if you want to talk to boys and girls, talk to them! if you want to be more outgoing, then do it! you just need to think of what you want, and persue it. if you said yourself that you know you're not ugly, so that right there shows that your self esteem is probably okay =] so just let go and do what you want. also, like i said in the top of my advice column next to my picture, DONT LOOK FOR LOVE. its ok to keep your eyes open for it, don't get me wrong... but don't walk around thinking every cute guy who talks to you if your soulmate lol.. now i'm not saying you're doing that!!! just warning you incase you ever do lol.. so again, about the boyfriend thing.. just wait and be yourself and good things will come your way =] ♥
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Okay first off you just have to feel comfortable wherever you are and what you are doing. Think of something that your really good at like;making people laugh,being nice,comforting them. And those will be your positive acts. If you are in class and you have something to say then SAY IT everyone likes someone who is outspoken. I know it will probaley be hard but just believe in yourself b.c you can do it!! Once you get the class laughing or agreeing on something that your talking about..a whole bunch of kids will start talking to you. You just have to TALK and say something or else no one will notice you. I hope this helps and good luck <3 i believe in you :)
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