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80 year old mom
How do I NOT care what my 80 year old mom thinks about what I do, buy, etc. and just do what I want, buy, etc. You see what tends to happen I get angry at her for insisting her way is better and then I say to myself; how dare you and in addition I build up a whole scenario in mind about what type of conversation would take place if I confronted her on the issues she makes comments about which gets us into a fight. Here are some things she does: (1) makes comments on the herbs I take (you see she doesnt believe in taking any type of supplements; (2) Gives me contradictory messages on the purses (they cost $1.49 but look $80) and jewelry (cost $1.49 but look around $40) I buy at the 99 cent store - she tells me that she loves the jewelry and purses I buy but makes comments on them as well; (3) I was going to buy reciprocal presents (frames) for three coworkers and she put down the fact that I was going to buy them at the 99 cent store. (I will elaborate on this on a new question. HELP. As I said how do I not care, not get angry, not say how dare you, etc.
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I don't think that you should care what your mother says, because she has her own opinion and you have yours. I'm not saying just lose all of your respect for her, but I am saying that since you even said that you don't care what people say about you, why should you care what she thinks. Just don't yell at her, stay calm, explain to her that it's yours and you like it, plus why does she even care if she doesn't have to wear it/use it? Remember to stay true to yourself and don't change for anyone. I hope all goes well with you and your mother.
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your mom is entitled to her opinion just as you are to yours. that fact that your opinion disagrees with hers is a testament to the fact that she raised you to think for yourself. when she gives an opinion you dont like dont think about how you disagree with her, thing instead about how she taught you to make up your own mind and not be swayed by others opinions that disagree with yours.
your mother made you an independent person. have you ever thanked her for this?
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When she starts making remarks you don't like just ignore them like she didn't say anything. Take your herbs and let her think what she wants. Go nuts at the 99 cent store and ignore her remarks.
Just don't let her bait you. She has her opinion and you have yours. Neither of you are going to talk the other into seeing it your way because you are both obviously stubborn.
For example, you have posted this question in many different variations. Why? And please don't post more questions about cheap purses and jewelery. No matter what they look like they are still cheap purses and jewelery. Get over it please. You have to grow up and ignore her opinion.
If you love it...great. Don't feel guilty about it
just ignore her. :)
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