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My boyfriend is friends with a irl that bullies me
Hi my name is Jackie, I am a girl and i am 13 years old.
okay so my boyfriend is really good friends with a girl that constantly bullys me. She says bad things about me to his face but he doesnt defend me. Once she even kissed him just to make me upset. Every time me and my boyfriend fight, its about her. What should i do? should i brake up with him?
I've thought about braking up with him but i like him way too much. we have been together for almost a year and 2 months. I really need help.
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hey jackie..
i went through the exact same thing last year. i was going out with a guy for almost a year. i was totaaly in lvoe with him and i mean in love. the relationship was great. but his ex this girl would always try to ruin our relationship say bad things to hima bout me bully me liek crazy and reli she was the only reason for our break up. im not sure about ure sitaution but for me we broke up about 8 months ago and im still totally in love and i had to let him go. he ended up lieing to me to go with her and tehy went out after we broke up. it broke my heart and it took a long time for us to becoem friends again. the girl who is friends with ure boyfriend is just jealous cause you have him. i think you shoudl talkt o ure boyfriend tell him how you feel and how it hurts when she says all thsij shit about you to you and him. tell him how bout if a guy woudl come up to me and sya all thsi shit about you and tell him that you dnt kkno if its goan work out if he cant sand up for you. just talk to him if you feel comfortable. a relationship is all about communication
good luck
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Trust your gut as it is always right. If you have been having constant thoughts about breaking things off with him trust them. You are having them for some pretty valid reasons. Ask yourself the following questions:
1) Even though I love him do I really and truly feel safe, comfortable, protected and happy?
2) Would I be happier on my own of with someone else right now?
3) Ask yourself why won't he defend me or respect my thoughts about this other girl?
You need to confront him again about her and tell him how wrong it is not to defend your own girlfriend against attack even if the person doing it is a friend of his.
Also tell him she cannot come around when you are with him. Put your foot down and become assertive because you better believe it he thinks he can walk all over you and your feelings. Don't let him.
If I were you though I would walk away from the relationship and enjoy your life as he's always going to pick other girls over you and make you feel this way because he's a jerk.
This is his personality type and he's not going to change or see the problem from any perspective other than his. I know from experience that this is what you're up against.
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