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My friend Used to like my boyfriend before we were going out. She even asked him out once. But he said he liked her only as a friend. I really liked him too when I first met him and I think he liked me too. Then a couple days later he asked me out. I asked my friend over and over and she acted natural and said shes fine with it whatever. So I did and At first things were going great. and me and my friend Talked as usal and also talked to my new boyfriend. But then I we think she kept trying to brake us up. Like she was telling lies to us about eachother then we found out it wasent true so we thought..ok whatever. and now theres a dance comming up at both our schools. (Oh, and we go to diffrent schools) My Ex wanted to go with me but i kept saying no. Then my B/f asked if he could go with his Only friend Holly. and that she was only a friend. And I thought ok I guess thats fine. But then Holly got a b/f and shes going with him. So then MY BFF ASKED MY BF TO THE DANCE!!!! He said only as friends but I dont feel right about it. I mean I bet she still likes him. After the things shes did. and I feel really werid about him dancing with her! I know I sound selfish or somthing right now but..it just doesnt feel right. I dont want him going with her but I dont want to be in complete controll of him. and also selfish. I dont know...PLEASE GIVE ME ADIVCE!! WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!???
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I agree with the previous advice, you'd be the bigger person by letting it be. And no, you're not being selfish. It's completely understandable that you feel this way, given she may have tried getting you two to break up or at least distance yourselves from each other. I agree, you should casually remind him it's just a dance and wish him well. Anyway, if he's really into you, he'll see it as nothing more than a dance. And plus, it's not kind to tell him not to dance with her, even if deep down you don't want him to. He could think of you as selfish and posessive, and you don't want that. By the way, if it bothers you so much, you should talk to your boyfriend about the situation (that your friend is into him and has told lies about both of you). And on the other hand, it's natural for her to feel a bit jealous, but it isn't right for her to display her feelings in such a way, as to try getting in between you two. But then again, I don't know her, so who am I to say? But really, just try playing it cool
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Honestly, I don't know if I'd go out with a guy who by best friend likes as well.
But if I did, I'd encourage her to go to the dance and be supportive. Think of it this way: she's borrowing him for the night and returning him to you. In the long run, he's yours. What's the harm in giving her one night if she likes him so much? Just do her a little favour.
Tell your boyfriend beforehand not to try anything funny and remind him that she's trying to break you two up. Then act very generous and tell them to have a nice time.
If your friend every gets too cocky, just be like "I'm glad he's going with someone I trust and not any other girl." and "Aww it's so cute, my best friend and my boyfriend going together".
Suppress your jealous feelings for one night. You can do it.
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