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i need to know if he's married
i met a guy a month ago, we fell in love he's good to me good to my kid and last week i got a call from some annonamous person that he was married. he had left over thanksgiving and didn't tell me, when he finally came back he told me his dad had a heart attack, i told him about the phone call i got and he just simply said he wasn't married, the problem is this has happened to me before i don't know what to do. pleasse help me!
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All you've got in this situation is trust - unless you want to become one of those people driving around and following guys, which is never a good recipe for success.
I guess some basic questions I would consider are:
Have you ever been to his house?
Have you ever met anyone in his family?
How would someone you don't know gotten your name and number?
Even if the answer to the first two questions is 'no,' it doesn't mean anything underhanded is going on. Assumptions based on past relationships can be a problem - like assuming that because your first boyfriend cheated on you, they all will. However, there is also truth to the idea that some patterns repeat themself.
In order to step outside of yourself and be a little more objective, try thinking about the situation first. Has your guy ever done anything to make you suspicious? Did his response make you feel something wasn't quite right? Logically, have there been periods when you haven't been able to get ahold of him?
Once you've thought, try feeling. Do you trust this person? Are you willing to accept their word that nothing else is going on, and then move on?
It's a tough situation, and one that can't be answered very easily - particularly by me, someone who doesn't directly know you or your boyfriend. All I can recommend is some soul searching, and possibly some counselling to help you explore this more fully. Counselling can also be helpful in recognising patterns and figuring out how to break them.
Best of luck.
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