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28 and never had an orgasm
I've never to my knowledge had an orgasm. The closest I think I've got is this tingling sensation in my uterus it feels like someone blew butterflies inside me it only last a couple seconds or else this feeling in my legs where they start feeling tingly and then that goes away. I've only slept with 10 guys and the guy that I'm currently with is the first one who this really seems to bother. It use to bother me but as the years went by I cared about it less. I've tried a vibrator, gels, relaxing in the tub, taking the shower handle and spraying myself, in my bed, and so forth and nothing has worked. The other things that may be strange is that I'm writting this because currently I've been with this guy for 3 months and this is the only thing that bothers him about our relationship (he feels that I'm not getting anything and that he is getting everything eventhough I've told him that the reason I like having sex with him is because I like to see and feel his reaction but he makes a good point asking me how I would feel if the role was reversed). So is there anything that you can think of. Honestly I'm a pretty open person sexually so I'll try any position I can get myself and him into. Thank You I know this was a long one.
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Is having an orgasm important to you? Or do you simply want to have one to please the guy you are with?
This is something to think about. Many women have a hard time achieving orgasm - though I'm not suggesting you give up - and some of them are really okay about not having orgasms. After all, they aren't the only good thing about having sex.
It does sound as if you've given up on yourself, though, and maybe you want to re-evaluate that.
I would normally suggest that it's easier to learn how to have an orgasm by yourself than with another person, and it seems like you must have thought this. I applaud all you've tried. Since you've got some basics covered, I'll try going really REALLY basic.
Masturbate only when you feel turned on.
No matter how much vibration, friction, or technique you've got, it's not worth much unless you feel like engaging in some sexual activity. When and if you're excited, why not try to explore and see what feels right. Clearly, trying out certain techniques isn't working - and why should it? We're all different.
Your clitoris is likely to be the most sensitive area, so that's a good place to start. Just see how things go.
You can add in spicy videos or read some saucy stuff to help you out.
The funny thing about orgasms is that the harder you try, the more stress/pressure happens - and the less likely you are to have an orgasm.
I would also seriously suggest that you consider some sort of counselling - sex therapists are there as experts who can help you figure out how to get things working the way you want them to work...emotionally and physically.
I wish you the absolute best.
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