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My friend is really moody and suicidal. I really want to help her but, i dont know what to say. She emailed me this:
"Nope, I'm not okay and no matter what I'll probably never be happy like everyone else is. But as long as I keep pretending I'm happy then that will make other people satisfied cause whenever I complain or tell someone my problems they just act like they got more and mine don't mean anything to them...so why do they even ask me ,"how are you?" Or," how did your day go?" They need to shut up if they don't care. And I wonder why people even talk to me when their so "afraid" of me anyway, (like the whole school is for some reason). I have always been a loner type of person and yeah, I don't think life is fun, the only reason I'm not dead is cause I don't have a gun to kill myself with. But I'm quite tired of living and I just get more angry towards everyone everyday, but it's okay cause I only hurt myself and the only person I really hate is me. I will never get anywhere in life so I quit trying (my grades show it!) Well I'm done blabbering on and on about my problems cause oops...I forgot, no one
cares!!!"
I really dont know what to say to that without having her mad at me. I tried the "suck it up" thing but, I can tell that didnt work. Please help me.
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Oh wow, this is serious. how good of friends are you to her? if you're semi-close that's just as good. From the words i read i can tell that's she's in imense pain from her heart. As if giving up on all life itself. Hopefully i can help. Being her friend is one chance of saveing her. Tell her confidently to not do what she thinks of doing.
Tell her that no other women can replace her and that you care for her very much. say something like " I'm not afraid of you, but i am afriad of loseing someone like you, so please dont. The world is a cruel and useless place, but it's what you make of it. I have confidence in you even if no one else does." The power of words will seep in even if she turns away
This may sound corny but in her state of mind something like this has to be done. if after you tell her how you feel and she looks like she needs a hug, give her a hug and with all feeling, say something like "even if no one else is here, im here" try and calm her down, there's very much rage in her.
I hope this helps, i really do. in the event this doesn't and you need more info. my e-mail's BlueDragon072@aol.com please take care and let me know how it goes.
'human lives can never be replaced... only remembered"
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i lost someone very close to me from suicide
let me tell u the feeling is one i never want to expierence again. I suggest u get you friend some help before its to late.
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if you think you two are friends, then you can tell her that if you didnt care about her, you wouldnt be her friend. tell her some things that you love about her and why shes important to you. tell her about how much fun you have with her, your great experiences with her, etc. remind her how much she means to you. dont do this all in an instant, or she might think that youre just saying it. tell her something every so often whether she feels happy, sad, angry, whatever. just remind her how great life can be and it might help. hope my advice helps! <3
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ok it sounds like your friends depressed (oviously) i know she probably wont like it and you wont want to do it but you seriously need to tell a student councilor or teacher or even her parents. she needs help and if her parents/guardian/councelor know, they can get her antidepressants or counciling. then she will get all her emotions out in the open and solve her problems. but she needs your help to get through this. if she gets mad at you for telling say your just doing it to help her becuz you care about her and dont want to lose a good friend. in the mean time just be the best friend you can be ask her how her day was and really listen to her and give her reassurance that she will be ok and you will be there for her when she needs to talk. and when she says suicidal things tell her to hang on and things lik that.
hope i helped :)
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