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I reallly like this guy...
OKay, i've liked this guy for quite some time now, but i dont know if he likes me back or not. So far ive told all the guys i liked and i freaked one out, which i dont want to happen again. The guy that i freaked out said "oh shit" when i walked through the door at a pool party once. Clearly that didnt work out. But i like someone else now,hes really cut and sweet how do i tell him without freaking him out like the other guy. That was really embarrassing. WHAT DO I DO!!!
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The fact that the other guy "freaked out" is his problem, not yours (unless you told him about your feelings by jumping naked out of a cake or something, in which case he's justified in being a little freaked).
A lot of the answer depends on how old you and the guy in question are. The way to approach a 22-year-old and tell them about romantic feelings is very different from how it's done when the participants are fourteen. There are some general rules of thumb, however:
(1) Get him alone, if at all possible. Peer pressure is a big factor in causing freakouts.
(2) Don't be too cute about it. Sending little notes from a "secret admirer" and then daring him to meet you is going to make him very nervous indeed.
(3) Don't be too aggressive. Suddenly sitting in his lap and running your tongue up his neck will probably not get this relationship off on the right foot.
(4) Start by flirting. Wink at him, go out of your way to be close to him, brush his hand when you walk by, stare at him until you get caught and then smile shyly about it, that kind of thing. If he calls you on it, say, "I was hoping you'd notice."
My guess is that the guys you've told have freaked out because you naturally have a very honest, direct approach. Do not ever think that there is anything wrong with that! When you find the guy who will appreciate it, you will have made a major catch, because he will deal with you the same way - and in my humble opinion, honesty in a relationship is even more important than love. Don't lose that!
Good luck!
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