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is it normal?
is it normal for a guy to look at porn while he's ur boyfriend. not all the time but sometimes...it bothers me cuz i feel he's lookin for something better than me..help
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Yeah, it is normal. That does not mean it is healthy and morally acceptable for everyone. Guys still check out other women and consider viewing porn not cheating. However, it is also normal for you to feel bothered by his being turned on by other women, even if they are only images. Visual images are a strong sexual turn on for men, although many women also break the stereotype that only men are strongly visually stimulated. Women are more in tune with the senses of touch and have a more complicated fantasy life then men. We want the whole package, not just the "package." Men can objectify women easily and use them for sex without emotional attachment. Guys do not yearn for emotional connections in general, as women do, so when they do make a connection, it is a big deal. This means, that although it is annoying that he has the porn, in his mind it is completely separate from his feelings which are reserved for you alone. Have you talked to him about it? Does it get in the way of your intimacy with him? Do you think he could give it up or give you up more easily? Explain your own feelings about it without demanding anything, and see what he says. Whether or not it is normal is not the point and no excuse. Relationships are about compromise and you both need to discuss this and come to an agreement you both can live with if this is a serious adult relationship. If you are both young and casually dating, I would not expect him to change and you can't really demand it, but he is not looking for something better. You are the real deal, and that is the best always. Hope that helps a little.
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