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The other day I asked my boyfriend if we could take a break. I just wanted alone time. And he got really emotional about it and started crying and such. I wasn't breaking up with him. I just wanted a break. Later on that day after talking with him I decided that I didn't want to take a break anymore. So what is wrong with me. I am so indecisive right now.I've been doing alot of this lately. I don't know what I want. I love him and I've been going out with him for alittle over a year now. And I'm 17..
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It's okay to be confused and indecisive, but it's not very nice to drag other people along that emotional rollercoaster with you.
Next time, rather then asking for a break right off the bat, try talking about your feelings with your boyfriend instead. Maybe what you really wanted was more time to spend with your friends/family or on school work. Maybe you were just tired of the same old dates. There are a hundred possible problems, that he might be able to help you solve or deal with, that really had nothing to do with breaking up with him, and since you've now changed your mind, I would bet it wasn't really the relationship you were unhappy in.
You also learned a really important lesson about people. For most people 'taking a break' really means "I don't have the balls to break-up with you right now but that's the way we're headed." That might not be what you meant, but that is what your boyfriend heard, so that is what he responded too.
There is nothing wrong with you, you just need to learn to handle these feelings a bit better, with a bit more respect for your boyfriend. Even if you do breakup or a take a break, at least if you've been talking about the problems, he will be able to better understand and deal with it.
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