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Should my ex boyfriend and I be friends with benifits?
I'm a female who is 16 years old and my ex boyfriend is 17. I really miss him and especially miss making out with him. Would it be a good idea if we both agree on being friends with benifits? The thing though is I still really like him so I'm just afraid that if we would agree to being just friends with benifits my feelings would grow stronger for him. What should I do?
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I know you are right...your feelings for him would get stronger!
I don't like the friends with benefits thing myself. What you decide to do is up to you and I wouldn't look down on you for it at all. But, let me give you my reasons and you can decide from there.
For you, it will be very frustrating. As you said your feelings will grow but to him you will just be a place to go when he can't get it elsewhere.
He will go out with other girls and carry on like a free bird and you will be left waiting with the hope that he will call. And he will sometimes and you will get your hopes up and then he will go right back to whoever he wants to see.
He is the only one who will benefit from the relationship really. I don't know if sex is included in the making out, but it really doesn't matter. There is more to a relationship than making out. That is the part you will REALLY miss.
Your best bet is going to be finding someone else
to care for. Not easy to do but people do it every day. As soon as you begin to care for someone else
you will be fine. So, until you find someone, spend time with your friends and don't dwell on the past. There is someone better out there waiting.
If you should decide to continue with benefits just be careful. If sex is involved make sure he wears a condom. :)
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