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Is my jerk ex bf getting his friends to check on me?
About 4 months ago I got dumped by my bf. We were in a long distance relationship- I sort of gave him an ultimatum that I wanted a ring on my finger (I'd been with him for 3 years). He had been stringing me along and sort of playing games with me and just got sick of it. He ended things with me very childishly and was a real jerk at first- not returning any of my emails or calls. I gave up after 3 days. He was- and still is very stubborn and has difficulty expressing emotion. In the past when we have fought and broken up I have always been the one to mend fences even though he was the one being a jerk. I've decided this time if he wants me back then he needs to contact me with no effort on my part. I'm sick of doing all the work in this relationship and I know I deserve better than this abuse. Anyways; my question is that since we've broken up I keep seeing male friends of his come into the store I work in. They pretend they are shopping but I know they arent in my department because I sell kids clothing. They just stare and watch me and don;t talk to me. Do you think he's been getting his friends to check up on me? And if so does that mean he still cares about me? He lives out of town remember.
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Your ex may think that the only reason you are over him is because of another guy. He does not care about you, so much as he is just curious for the sake of his ego. If it happens again, then directly ask what the friend wants or at least say Hello, Can I help you?. Don't let them play games with you. You are right not to try to contact him and get him to take you back. He is not worth it and you need to move on. It sounds like you need to realize too, that no one can string you along without your permission. You let him have all the cards in that relationship. Never give a guy all that power over you again. I would not let him come back even if he begged, which he won't, because he only wants to be in control and not give anything in return. You don't need that, and I am glad he dumped you. Now you have a real chance at letting a man love you and not just take advantage of you. First though, you need to decide for yourself, that you won't let yourself fall for another guy like that. We tend to be drawn to the same people over and over again, unless we make great effort to change within. Take this opportunity to examine your soul.
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Yess becuase if he cares he doesnt want any other guy taking you away from him at all so he taking no chances and want to make sure you dont go off with another guy.. yess does care he and maybe yo u should talk t him and ask why he doesnt liek to expres emotions and he proly think thats kinna femine.ya kno how boys are these days.. but he might just care for you if he all the way out of town and has friends come to your job and stare at you .... get back to me ....
~ Miss_Diva ~
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