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Suicidal, Bulimic, nymphomaniac girl!!!
Well, not me, this friend of mine. She has been screwing her life for years now and I kept being her friend for so long even though she was draggin me under. When i was with her, I was sad, she called me and spoiled my day. She was soooo dump and she would not let her real friends help. She went to a psyxhiatrist that of course could not help her but only take her money and act all profesional and stuff.
Point is, that I do not want to be her friend, she treats me like shit and I could be talking about situations for hours, the advicenators does not have enough bandwidth for all that shit. She sold me out thousands of times, she pushed all of her real friends away including me.
This is the only time in my life I am happy something like this happened. I dont miss her, no longer want to be with her, I dont want to have the slightest relatioship with her. She actually did me a favour by sending me away and I was kind of looking forward to it.Very convenient if you know what I mean. I felt as if I was the only person who cared for her when eveybody left her including her parents. I know I was the only solid thing she had in her life only she did not quite aprociate it at the time.
Anyways, the problem is that after 8 months or so she started calling me again. It is not of my character not to answer a phone when I see who is calling but I have forgiven her so many times in the past and it turned out not that good. I just dont want to anymore and that makes me feel as an evil person. I always try to be a good person, always try to help people around me, always try to do the good thing only this time, I feel it is just a basket case. I know she is in worst condition now and she aint getting any better. So the point is...I am definatelly going back to her but I just cant help but feel guilty for being a bad friend especially when she calls me. I dont want to tell her anything at all. I dont want to tell her I am no longer willing to be yourfriend I dont wnt to write a letter to her I dont want nothing. I do have so much inside of me to tell her but I dont want to.
I just want to say (dont ever call here again bye) and hang up, but do you think that makes me an evil person? I know she will never change and I dont care even though after the past we shared together.
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Well, since she really does have problems and she's not faking any of this stuff, she's for real. You should feel glad that someone so insecure would open up to you and rely on you so much. You may be tired and fed up with it but think of it this way: what if you had no one but one person to rely on and talk to? What would you do? You'd definately go on for hours to them, right?
Just understand her and try to help her out as much as you can. I'm open to talking with her so you can give her my sn or something. I don't care. But you should always definately be there for her because I know that even thought I'm to a lesser degree of what you just described above, I have no one to talk to that I trust and it's really frustrating.
It doesn't make you a bad person for thinking these thoughts. I would understand b/c I have a friend who is just a scene and she needs all the attention in the world altho she is SPOILED like woah and she rambles to me on and on and on about how her life sucks when actually she has the freedome to do everything.
Well, anyways, just support her, introduce her to advicenators (sorry, I didn't quite get what you were saying above about this site), if she has myyearbook, I have a group on there called Advice Center and there are many people on there that can help. She can feel free to IM/Email me any time.
Also another thing: introduce her to a journal or diary! Whenever she's feeling down, have her write it down, sing/listen to music, draw and etc.
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