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crush and racism
my name is Rachel and iam a junior which is the 11th grade and this boy that i like is in the 9th grade and he's 15 and iam 17,but the problem is that he's black and my parents are really racist about racial dating what should I do?
please help me.
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you're 17 years old and that's old enough to make your own decisions.
don't let your parents get in the way of how you feel about somebody. you not dating him because your parents don't like that he's black is the same thing as you not dating him because he's black. you see what i mean?
they can't really say anything to you. parents, especially at your age, like to be as threatening as possible when you're doing something they don't like because it isn't long before their say won't even enter into your mind at all cuz you'll be all on your own. but they know that if you wanna do it they ultimately can't do anything to stop it.
honestly, i'd just not say anything else to your parents about it and start dating him. if they ask again then you can either be honest and say whatever i'm gonna do what i want or lie. either way, dont NOT date him just because of what your parents think.
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I am glad you recognize the problem as their own. How do they feel about you just having a friendship with him first. Maybe if you put off the dating for a little bit, or just say...go out as friends or in a group, your folks won't be as threatened. Then, when they see how terrific he is as a person they might lay down their old ways. You are almost an adult, so you will not need their permission and approval much longer. No one can stop you from liking/loving whom you wish and when you are on your own, do not seek anyone's approval but your own. Good luck winning them over.
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