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Someone to talk to?
This may sound absolutely stupid to some, but most of the problems in my life deal with my family & friends. I'm constantly getting into fights with my best friends, which puts so much stress on me, and then when I go home..there's no one to talk about it with, because my parents wouldn't understand. I've tried talking stuff through with them before, and they told me my friends & my fights are over useless things. WELL, I already knew that, the point IS the fights put so much stress on me and I'd like to relieve it. Is this a situation in which a shrink is needed? I have been feeling for years like I need one, I'm 17/f.
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Totally not stupid at all, I can totally relate. If it's to the point where your fights with your friends totally ruin any fun in your day or you're constantly sad or depressed, therapy might be useful to leading a much more happier life.
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Ultimately only you can decide if seeking the help of a therapist is in you best interest. If it is something you feel like you want, then try it. There's no harm in at least trying it. If it doesn't work, you're no worse off. Now, with that said, if it is something you really aren't too keen on, then try some of these solutions. As we progress we ALWAYS get in petty fights with our friends. It is a natural part of the teenage years, so please don't feel like you are alone in that respect. Next time you have a fight, take a step back, and allow yourself to calm down as well as your friends. When you muster up the feelings, tell them something along the lines of "Y'all, this is stupid, fighting gets us know where and I know it personally stesses me out a lot, and I am happier when we can all get along." So in a sense, you have to suck it up and be the bigger person. But if you do this just a few times, your friends will probably pick up on it, and do it instead the next time or two. Also, since venting to your parents isn't an option, try writing in a diary. That way you can remember the situation, explain your side, vent, and move on. Also, you may want to tell your parents that you are feeling a bit stressed and overwhelmed when you are having a tough time, and you really could use a little more support. When you reach out to them, they'll help. But you have to communicate. Don't clam up. It's not good for anybody. Also, keep in mind that it is okay to have little fights, but if one of your friend is doing something harmful to you, or hurting you over and over, you don't have to stick around. :)
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