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How to calm the heart of pain?
Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to read and hopefully answer my issue. I am a female of the young age of 20 and I understand at this current age many do not follow the old ways of romance or trust. For an unknown reason people have developed many levels of obligation. This world is a complete contridiction of it's ways and it's hard to fit in with the crowd. Let me get to the point. It's very difficult to identify the common means to survive a relationship. I know the basics, Im beautiful, young, smart; blah blah. But the one I am with is who I want to be with. I am going to safely assume that you would advice to leave him and find another. I know that choice is avaliable but that is not what I seek. I am looking for advice or maybe a answer. My boyfriend is going away to puetorico for 4 days with a few of his male co-workers. We had infedility problems before but I forgave him for his act. I just would like to know some advice on how I can get over this. Im not ready for this disattachment, I havent fully healed yet. The cheating ended 3-4 months ago. I know females are emotionally toned then males, but I just cant seem to channel my thoughts right. I cant help think he is going to be weaken again. We get into arguments everytime I bring it up to him. But what can I do? The feeling of "What ever happens in " " stays in " " flows through me. And its very difficult to fix. You maybe asking why I want to be with him eventhough I am feeling this way, well I want to be with him because he shows me that this is reality. There is no such thing as good guys or girls anymore. No more princess and prince with a fairytale background. hurt comes and goes, I just want to know on different ways of swallowing it down. I dont want to feel like this, I was thinking "What if". I wish you can help me out. Thank you for your time.
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Well first of all you really shouldn't just want to be with him because you belive there are no longer any "good guys" out there because there are...maybe not many or there or right away but there are and if that's what you really want it's what you should have. but you have made it very clear that you want to be w/ this guy. also, you need to know that if you really want to spend, well, forever w/ this guy you have to trust him...and that doesn't mean knowing where he is every waking moment and who he's always w/. you should just sit him down and tell him that you need to talk and you don't want to end up fighting but you need to be sure. and by the way if he'll honestly answer you "i've already promised i wouldn't cheat on you agian", if he did you need to trust him. but you should tell him your still hesitant. you have to be honest if you want it to work. just say you want some reassurance. that will make you feel better and you won't have to swallow your feelings because you shouldn't have to
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