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Marriage
My fiancee and I plan to marry early 2007.He says he does not want to wear his wedding ring and will remove it immediately after marriage.This has really affected me and I feel like he does not love me enought if he cannot wear my ring.I want to convinve him so that he does not removethe ring without hurting his feelings.
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From Mike and Morgan:
Has he told you WHY he doesn't want to wear his ring? Some men simply feel uncomfortable wearing jewelry or don't like the style of a traditional gold wedding band. If this is the case, perhaps he isn't aware of the stylish and unique options available today for men's wedding rings -- it isn't just plain gold bands anymore! Or perhaps you can make a compromise and use another piece of jewelry to symbolize your marriage that he is more comfortable with. Maybe you can select an engraved chain necklace, a simple earring, a nice watch, or he can wear the ring around his neck on a chain. Or maybe a tattoo is more his style!
But if he has other reasons than not wanting to wear jewelry, have you had other problems in your relationship besides this? If this has really been the only problem, I would not take it too seriously. All you can do is let him know that it's important to you that he wears his wedding ring and it would mean a lot to you if he could wear it for you -- after all, a relationship is about compromise and sacrifice, and maybe you can work out a solution. But if your relationship is otherwise strong, you don't necessarily need a ring to symbolize that bond.
But if you have had other serious relationship issues, this might just be one more warning sign to a rocky road ahead. Are there trust issues or infidelity in his past? Has he shown apprehension about the idea of getting married or a reluctance to make a commitment? If so, this might just be another way for him to show you he isn't ready to get married. Couples counseling would be a good option for you to work out these problems.
Best of luck to you!
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