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too much too quick
me and my bf have been together for a very long time. even though it seems like a lot longer than it really is. 3 years. he asked my dad and mom if he can propose to me only if we wait till after high school and maybe college. well i want to. he asked me. adn i said of course. but my thing is im worried i dont want to wait. im a junior. and 16. but i love him. he was my 1st and only. and same the other way. he does what i want and i do what he wants. to a limit. we respect eachother more than words could say and make eachother feel good about ourselves and the other. my self esteem has gone up so much because of him. we broke up once and it was over a girl who was at his house too much adn she got onto him adn she is a skank. well i told him to please stay away from her for my sake. he did till his bff started dating her. then she tried getting them to tag team adn stuff adn she passed out in his bed after her fell asleep after a party. i came over the next morning and saw the wrong thing. so it was discussed adn fine. im just worried im not ready to have to wait to marry him. im worried something could happen for real and keep us from eachother.
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First i want to say thats really awesome that you guys have that type of relationship and respect eachother and are both eachothers first and plan to be eachothers lasts but dont worry if its ment to be and you guys are in love it will all work out and nothing will come between you guys waiting will be good and then you will be able to go to college and not feel obligated becasue sometimes things change after marriage
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That's hell of tight that you are so young and already close to getting married. (:. But if your love is real and you know it would be better to wait..Then wait.. If you are meant to be then nothing will come between you that will ruin you guys. Rushing might be worse.
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calm down my dear! just look at your parents, look at them! they already forming a fanily for years! how tought they are! can you imagine their daily problem in buiding their career and also building their "dream family" at the same time! it's hard to live together with the same person for a whole of your lifetime! you should notice that! may be someday THE ONE that u love the most will turn his heart away! face it, if u dare to make a relationship with someone, you must be able to face the fact that beyond of your expectation! i had a friend, he already engage for 4 years! but a month ago he found out that his girl had another man! she drive him crazy! he almost committing a suicide! but now he relize that he live not only for his girl but also for his family & friends! now, he able to face the world and find another girl of his dream! REMEMBER, The decision is in your hand!
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Making a decision out of fear is not the best idea. Desperation to hold onto something or someone always backfires. When you saw her in your boyfriends bed, I am not sure that you "saw the wrong thing." We were not there, but that is not the point. Was it your boyfriend that knowingly put a girl that was willing cheat with him into his own bed? If it was, then that is not respectful. It does sound suspicious. You are going to have to wait to marry, because you are underage and technically a child. In a couple years or even weeks everything could change between you and your guy. Live for the day and enjoy your youth. Being so desperate to tie yourself to someone tells me that you have low self-esteem and need to experience loving yourself unconditionally. What is the "something" that could happen? Do you not trust your boyfriend? Marriage or an engagement has never stopped someone from cheating who wanted to. Don't look at a promise as a safety net. You can only control one thing in life and only then, with much work and that is yourself.
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