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What should I do next?
I'm Thai. 24. male. I guess I might have a big problem with my friend. My friend is a lesbian who has been with her girlfriend for few years. However, she asked me to meet her tow days ago for drinking because she wanted to talk to me about her relationship with her girlfriend. She also came with her new girlfriend (as she told me). She has been trying to break up with her (ex)girlfriend, but she never gets it done because her (ex)girlfriend committed suicide (luckily, she is still alive).
It is unfair to myfriend's girlfriend for what ever myfriend doing right now. I really wanted to help her. Then I made a call last night just to encourage her to enjoy her self without worrying about myfriend. She asked me about my friend and who my friend went with. I have no choice , but to tell her the truth. Bang! They had a big argument which I even can hear while on the line. I don't know how it ended.
It might sound selfish If I say I want to help and be with her after they break up. If my friend can't be such a nice person to her, I can do a better job. However, at any rate, I didn't mean to be in between them or make them get break up this way. I just want to make this girl feel better. Anyway, my question are:
1. I don't know should I call her again? or even ask my friend for matters last night? or just slip off from them?
2. If I call her again, what should I talk to her about? I don't want her to think like I make things worse for them.
Thanks a lot for your helps.
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Leave them both alone, at least for a little while.
Despite your best intentions to help them out, what you did was meddle and bring angst. Sure the angst was just waiting there to come out, but you triggered it, and it's more then likely both of them are rather angry with you.
Beyond that, if you have such a desire to date this girl, it seems pretty obvious to me dear that your intentions weren't completely pure when you shared what you knew. The proper response was not to tell everything you knew, the proper response would have been to encourage her to discuss her fears and suspicions with her girlfriend. It doesn't just sound selfish dear, it *is* selfish to want to put the moves on someone whose relationship you just shoved unfairly into turmoil!
And what you did was unfair. Yes, what your friend was doing to her girlfriend was grossly wrong, but it wasn't your place to correct her or reveal her. You choose to put yourself in-between them and you caused trouble deliberately. The best thing you can do now is pull back from that, give them both space to deal with their relationship, or at least the end of it.
Yes, what her ex-girlfriend is going through is likely very painful right now, but it isn't your place to hold her hand through it. If you are truly interested in her, give it some time. Days, maybe even weeks, for the dust to settle, and then try calling back with an apology and a few gentle questions about where things stand now.
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