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Theese guys.
I've dated this guy Mike, He was my first real boyfriend.In the start of our relationship, He was a totally sweet guy. after we dated for about 2years, I started to realize he wasen't "mr. amazing" for me. He started to addicted to drugs and started to get snobby with me. I broke it off, I'm a major drug-free person. I had to grow up in a drug filled family, I can't take having a boyfriend with those problems. After about 2months I met this guy Aaron He's a little older then me, He's got a good head on his shoulders. Not to mention he's amazingly sweet. He's currently my boyfriend, But I haven't told him about Mike, he's asked about past relationships I told him, they werent important. Some of feels like I'm not ready to move on. I havent seen Mike in about 5 months, why is taking so long to get over him? I have this really sweet guy, who's a great person who cares for me.
I'm 18 by the way & Aaron is 20.
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Whenever you break up with someone that did that kind of thing (drugs), it's hard to get over them because humans like the thrill of being with someone kind of wild. I still have the same feeling for my ex (somewhat) and I'm with someone else. It's really just a feeling of infatuation- it's not real at all. I wouldn't break up with Aaron if I were you, unless you're sure thats what you ABSOLUTELY want. (But it doesn't sound like that's the way it is)
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You were with Mike for a long time and the breakup was over something more or less material. I really admire you for breaking up with him though. I think it was the right thing to do. You two just wouldn't be very compatible even if you did have strong feelings for each other. So, yeah, all that said, it's going to take a while to get over him.
In any case, you could probably get over him a little faster. I think that it's taking so long because you're holding it all in. Tell Aaron about him and it might make you feel so much better about everything. Don't, however, go and tell your boyfriend how much you miss/still love Mike or anything of that nature. You don't want to hurt Aaron's feelings. Say things like, you still care about him and worry about his problem. You might even go so far as to say that you did love him if that was the case. Try to stick to the factual stuff though. Like the story that you told on here. How Mike was into drugs and you realized that you couldn't be with him even though you still had feelings for him.
I think that maybe if you can get some of this out in the open, you'll not only feel better, but Aaron, being the sweet, wonderful guy that he is will help you get through it. Guys can sometimes surprise you like that. Honesty is not overrated. Good luck! :)
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hunny the reason why it so hard to get over mike is because you guys were together for 2 years and thats a long time and he was your first REAL boyfriend which will make it even harder to move on but all you can do is let time heal. i think if you wait another month you will be over mike. time is the only thing that can heal these wounds so your stuck with waiting. everytime mike pops into your head think "druggy". your right you dont need people involved with drugs in your life. aaron seems like the sweetest guy ever and i really think he could be the one for you. he has a great life ahead of him. ♥
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