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Relationship problems.. *yikes*
Okay... so let me give you the background info. I'm gay and my partner is bi but he "prefers guys over girls." It is both our first relationship in a male-male preference and the problem i'm having is that it seems as if we're not really that close... in the sense that we've been going out for over a month we've been on 6 dates 2 of which sucked because parental issues and we haven't seen each other for about a week and a half... We haven't done anything kissing, cuddling, any of the sort the only type of body contact we've had is just hugging before either one of us leaves to go home... we're both UBER shy but when we're talking online it's like a whole different world/conversation... in the sense of both of us being really "sexual." He's homeschooled and I go to school. I don't start school until the 29th and this week he doesn't have any work so we promised each other that we are going to see a lot of each other before I start school. The problem is that I don't know whether or not this relationship is really worth it because I really like him, I think he really likes me... I just don't know exactly where this is going and I asked him what he thinks and he gave me the generic answer of "wherever we want it to go." Pretty cheesy huh? I've been having some thoughts lately of either breaking up with him or asking if he would consider an open relationship... I just need some help.. Give me some advice! Oh yeah.. he lives 30 minutes away from me and I think that's more of a problem to him than it is for me... So yeah.. if you need anymore information on my situation feel free to message me.
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what do you parental issues?
anyways, if you really like him then its worth it your both shy so it will probably take more then a month to break out of the dating shell. give it some more time. do you have trouble seeing eachother because the parental issues?
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It doesn't sound as if you are really interested at the moment. It may just be because you haven't spent a lot of time together, it may be because you were only meant to be friends.
If after you spend some time together this week you just don't feel real attracted to him, I think you had better just be friends. When you meet the right guy for you....there will be no doubts in your mind at all.
If you are both pretty young a lot of the attraction you have for each other may be just the fact that you don't have to hide anything from each other. That is a comfort and a freedom you may not be able to have with other people you know. I don't know your situation.
For that reason alone I think you should remain friends. If it never progresses to anything more
you at least have that.
Good Luck! :)
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It would help knowing your age, but I still think I'd probably say the samething. You haven't exactly been going out THAT long, so it's not like you know each other real well considering all the other issues like distance. If you really like him and he really likes you, why would you end it? If you want a relationship to work, you have to make it work. Not just hope that it does and go about wondering what you should do. If i were you, I'd give it some time and see if there's things you can do to make time to see each other and get to know both of you better. Then if it's obviously not going to work, you'll know and that'll be the time to say byebyee.
=] Evy
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